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Wednesday, Oct 6, 1999 4:00 PM UTC1999-10-06T16:00:00Zl, M j, Y g:i A T

The nymphet strikes back

In a controversial new novel told from Lolita's point of view, the girl is vicious, conniving and not very convincing.

Puberty stood me up until I was about 15 or 16. Forget the “late bloomer” rhetoric: If we’re going to use floral metaphors, I’d have to say that when I first entered the emotional fray of adolescent sexuality, I was armed without so much as a pistil. My cadaverous body rendered me sexually invisible for a long time. (Why, oh why is the waif look desirable to the opposite sex only after you’re too old to come by it naturally?) This kept me out of trouble but was agonizing nonetheless.

In particular, I recall an eighth-grade party at which none of the boys tried to kiss me or fondle my backside as they did to the other girls. By the time my mother came to drive me home, I was so overwhelmed with a hopelessly snarled mixture of rejection and relief that I burst into tears and asked why nobody wanted to touch me. My mom — who didn’t, to her credit, ban me from coed parties right then and there — offered me some kind white lie that might even have had a kernel of truth to it: The boys, she said, didn’t touch me that way because they respected me. (Mmm-hmm.) “But I don’t want them to respect me!” I wailed, and dismissed her insistence that I might change my tune in a few years.

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Jennifer Kornreich is a freelance features reporter, a sex-and-relationships advice columnist for MSNBC Interactive News and a dating columnist for Cosmopolitan.  More Jennifer Kornreich

Wednesday, Dec 14, 2011 1:00 AM UTC2011-12-14T01:00:00Zl, M j, Y g:i A T

How to prevent rape without blaming victims

News of assaults often inspires tips on prevention -- but sometimes well-meaning advice becomes dangerous

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When the news broke, I took straight to Facebook: “Not to be alarmist,” I wrote in my status update, “but San Francisco friends, FYI.” There followed a link to the police department’s notice about a suspect in two rapes that took place within days of each other in my neighborhood. A local blog gruesomely reported that the latest victim was assaulted while walking to work at 6:30 a.m. — and that afterward, the fire department had to rinse blood off the street. An email from a friend warned, “It’s particularly brutal (breaking necks) and he’s doing it in public.

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Tracy Clark-Flory

Tracy Clark-Flory is a staff writer at Salon. Follow @tracyclarkflory on Twitter.  More Tracy Clark-Flory

Saturday, Oct 29, 2011 5:00 PM UTC2011-10-29T17:00:00Zl, M j, Y g:i A T

After I left my abusive boyfriend

I transformed myself when we split, but it wasn't just about reclaiming my self-worth. It was about becoming normal

Photo courtesy of Autumn Whitefield-Madrano

The author  (Credit: Photo courtesy of the author)

A longer version of this piece originally appeared on Autumn Whitefield-Madrano's Open Salon blog.

This isn’t a story about an abusive relationship. This is a story about what happened next.

I decided to leave my boyfriend not because he had hurt me, but because I was turning 30. He had hurt me, but by the time I left him, it had been four years since he’d harmed me. Our first year together was violent; eventually he was arrested for domestic assault, and he became one of the small percentage of men to go through a batterer intervention program and never attack their partner again. For the years that followed his arrest, I stayed with him because I needed to prove to myself that there was a reason I’d stayed in the first place. The relationship was never a good one, but by the end, it was tolerable. I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life in a passable relationship. That is why I left.

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Autumn Whitefield-Madrano examines beauty at The Beheld. Her essays have appeared in Glamour, Marie Claire, and Jezebel, and she is a contributing editor at The New Inquiry.  More Autumn Whitefield-Madrano

Thursday, Oct 27, 2011 12:15 PM UTC2011-10-27T12:15:00Zl, M j, Y g:i A T

The sex crimes that shocked Brooklyn

The NYPD, the media and the community seized on the idea of a single perp. The truth is much more complex

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This originally appeared in The Crime Report, the nation’s largest criminal justice news source.

The first thing she said was no. Then she began to scream. It went on for nearly a minute, loud and shrill, echoing down the quiet block of 16th Street in Brooklyn, N.Y., at 11:30 one night last March.

Across the street, Donald Harrington peered out his window. Down the block, Gretchen Barton called 911. A neighbor named Ray lumbered down his steps and rumbled, “Hey, what’s going on?”

The man loosened his grip on the woman. She sprinted up the block screaming. He ran too. Patrol cars arrived. They sped around the block to look for the woman and the assailant, but found neither.

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Lisa Riordan Seville is a freelance contributor to The Crime Report based in Brooklyn, New York.  More Lisa Riordan Seville

Friday, Sep 30, 2011 4:47 PM UTC2011-09-30T16:47:00Zl, M j, Y g:i A T

What constitutes rape?

An FBI definition excludes a wide range of sexual assaults, including ones against men. That might finally change

For nearly a decade, Carol Tracy, the executive director of the Women’s Law Project, has been agitating for a change in what she describes as the FBI’s  ”archaic” definition of rape.

This month, the agency made a major step forward to doing just that.

At a meeting in Washington last Friday, members of the Police Executive Research Forum (PERF), including representatives from police agencies in Chicago, Baltimore and Philadelphia, came together with FBI officials and victims’ advocates to discuss the importance of broadening the definition of a crime that most experts believe is significantly underestimated by the FBI’s Uniform Crime Report (UCR).

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Wednesday, Sep 14, 2011 7:01 PM UTC2011-09-14T19:01:00Zl, M j, Y g:i A T

China’s domestic violence problem

A high profile case involving a prominent business man and his American wife sheds light on a widespread issue

China's domestic violence problem

BEIJING, China — The woman in the photos is bruised and battered, one ear bleeding, a goose egg on her forehead. As she posted the pictures online, she wrote of being beaten by her husband, the well-known businessman.

The very public, recent airing of what many Chinese consider a private affair came as a shock. It generated thousands of online responses, from support for the woman to criticism of her for making her abuse public. After a more than a week of silence, Li Yang, the founder of “Crazy English” language training, finally apologized for beating his American wife.

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