Sex with the Obamas

Women are reportedly fantasizing about the first couple's hot and steamy love life.

Topics: Broadsheet,

One night, New York Times columnist Judith Warner had a dream about the president taking a shower in her house. Then a friend of hers confided that she’d had an Obama dream, too. So, Warner “launched an e-mail inquiry” to suss out whether the president was behind other women’s fluttering eyelids, and she found that he is — in a big way. Women across America are apparently dreaming about schtupping the president.

She writes: “In these dreams, the women replaced Michelle with greater or lesser guilt or, in the case of a 62-year-old woman in North Florida, whose dream was reported to me by her daughter, found a fully above-board solution: ‘Michelle had divorced Barack because he had become ‘too much of a star.’ He then married my mother, who was oh so proud to be the first lady,’ the daughter wrote me.”

Not only are women mind-sexing Obama, reports Warner, they are also daydreaming about his actual sex life: “Barack and Michelle Obama look like they have sex. They look like they like having sex,” a woman from Los Angeles writes to Warner. “Often. With each other.” I get it. It’s in the way they look at, touch and talk about each other. His words about his wife on election night — “my best friend for the last 16 years, the rock of our family, the love of my life” — made me, 22 years his junior, swoon. After watching them dance at the inaugural balls, my Mom, 15 years his senior, enthused that “they make marriage look hot” and made a prediction: ”People are going to start realizing that marriage can be sexy.”

It isn’t just that the Obamas are still, by all appearances, having sex; it’s that and that they’re still good friends. It’s an unfamiliar sight, as one of Warner’s interviewees points out: “These days when the sexless marriage is such a big celebrity in America (and when first couples are icons of rigid propriety), [it's] one interesting mental drama.” It’s apparently making some worry about how their marriage measures up. Warner quotes an anonymous friend:

“Each time I heard [Michelle Obama] speak about [Barack] I got tears in my eyes — because I felt so far away from that kind of bliss in my own life and perhaps even more, because I was so moved by her expressions of devotion to him. And unlike previous presidential couples, they are our age, have children the same age and (just imagine the stress of daily life on the campaign) by all accounts should have been fighting even more than we were.”

It’s tempting to see some of this as a healthy marital wake-up call. Some women are realizing that they do want sex and they do want to be best friends with their spouse — and, yes, they can! But then Warner’s article wades into darker emotional waters: “There’s a subcategory of people who feel that they really should have true intimacy with the Obamas,” she writes. “Because they went to school with them. Because they used to dream like them. Because, with one or two ‘different turns,’ they maybe could have been them.” A New York lawyer who went to school with the president said: “I keep thinking about how I squandered my education and youth,” he wrote in an e-mail. “I went off to college from high school being completely community-minded, doing a lot of volunteer work for the homeless and for hunger and tutoring poor kids. Then I got to college and forgot my ideals.”

It’s all one big far-fetched fantasy — from having actually stayed true to their dreams to having the Obamas’ sex life. Maybe these dreamers should take a note from his campaign and actually make a change.

Tracy Clark-Flory

Tracy Clark-Flory is a staff writer at Salon. Follow @tracyclarkflory on Twitter and Facebook.

More Related Stories

Featured Slide Shows

  • Share on Twitter
  • Share on Facebook
  • 1 of 11
  • Close
  • Fullscreen
  • Thumbnails
    Burger King Japan

    2014's fast food atrocities

    Burger King's black cheeseburger: Made with squid ink and bamboo charcoal, arguably a symbol of meat's destructive effect on the planet. Only available in Japan.

    Elite Daily/Twitter

    2014's fast food atrocities

    McDonald's Black Burger: Because the laws of competition say that once Burger King introduces a black cheeseburger, it's only a matter of time before McDonald's follows suit. You still don't have to eat it.


    2014's fast food atrocities

    Domino's Specialty Chicken: It's like regular pizza, except instead of a crust, there's fried chicken. The company's marketing officer calls it "one of the most creative, innovative menu items we have ever had” -- brain power put to good use.


    2014's fast food atrocities

    Arby's Meat Mountain: The viral off-menu product containing eight different types of meat that, on second read, was probably engineered by Arby's all along. Horrific, regardless.


    2014's fast food atrocities

    KFC'S ZINGER DOUBLE DOWN KING: A sandwich made by adding a burger patty to the infamous chicken-instead-of-buns creation can only be described using all caps. NO BUN ALL MEAT. Only available in South Korea.

    Taco Bell

    2014's fast food atrocities

    Taco Bell's Waffle Taco: It took two years for Taco Bell to develop this waffle folded in the shape of a taco, the stand-out star of its new breakfast menu.

    Michele Parente/Twitter

    2014's fast food atrocities

    Krispy Kreme Triple Cheeseburger: Only attendees at the San Diego County Fair were given the opportunity to taste the official version of this donut-hamburger-heart attack combo. The rest of America has reasonable odds of not dropping dead tomorrow.

    Taco Bell

    2014's fast food atrocities

    Taco Bell's Quesarito: A burrito wrapped in a quesadilla inside an enigma. Quarantined to one store in Oklahoma City.

    2014's fast food atrocities

    Boston Pizza's Pizza Cake: The people's choice winner of a Canadian pizza chain's contest whose real aim, we'd imagine, is to prove that there's no such thing as "too far." Currently in development.


    2014's fast food atrocities

    7-Eleven's Doritos Loaded: "For something decadent and artificial by design," wrote one impassioned reviewer, "it only tasted of the latter."

  • Recent Slide Shows



Comment Preview

Your name will appear as username ( settings | log out )

You may use these HTML tags and attributes: <a href=""> <b> <em> <strong> <i> <blockquote>