Salon Home
Topic

Polyamory

Thursday, Jan 26, 2012 4:59 PM UTC2012-01-26T16:59:00Zl, M j, Y g:i A T

The polyamory trap

The right wants to use the "slippery slope" of polyamory to discredit gay marriage. Here's how to stop them

Supporters of same-sex marriage cheer in front of San Francisco's City Hall

Supporters of same-sex marriage cheer in front of San Francisco's City Hall  (Credit: AP/Darryl Bush)

Newt Gingrich may have scored political points by refusing to talk about an ex-wife’s assertion that he asked that their marriage be “open,” but he also thrust polyamory into the national conversation.

This was new territory for many people, but not for LGBT advocates, who hear about it all the time. Won’t legitimizing same-sex marriage lead to legitimizing polyamorous relationships too? If two men can marry one another, why not one man and two women?  This argument is a favorite of former U.S. Sen. Rick Santorum, the so-called Christian right and the right-wing blogosphere.

Responding to these arguments is a challenge. On the one hand, I reject the tactic of distinguishing the good gays from the “bad” poly people. Further marginalizing the marginalized is just the wrong trajectory for any liberation movement to take. And it reminds me of the way that some mainstream gay activists have sold out transgender and gender-nonconforming groups. We’re the married gays who make neighborhoods stable and herald the arrival of cool coffeehouses; we’re not those awful drag queens. This is all trash, it sells out members of our own community who deserve more than that, and it’s a punt, really, not an argument.

Continue Reading

  More Jay Michaelson

Thursday, Sep 15, 2011 12:30 AM UTC2011-09-15T00:30:00Zl, M j, Y g:i A T

My mother, the Playboy Bunny

The relentless advertising for NBC's new show brings back memories from my childhood I would rather forget

My mother, the Playboy Bunny

A version of this piece originally appeared on Rhonda Talbot’s Open Salon blog.

It’s impossible not to notice all the signs, billboards and ads for NBC’s upcoming show “The Playboy Club.” In fact, I can hardly go shopping without being confronted by a glossy photo of scantily clad girls wearing onesies, bunny ears and poofy rear-end tails, smiling as if it’s fun to be pawed by sinister, alcohol-fueled men. I don’t think that’s how my mother remembers it.

Continue Reading

  More Rhonda Talbot

Wednesday, Jul 27, 2011 2:59 PM UTC2011-07-27T14:59:00Zl, M j, Y g:i A T

Crystal Harris overshares about sex with Hef

Crystal Harris, the Playboy mogul's "runaway bride," tells the world about their sex life -- and things get ugly

Hugh Hefner

Hugh Hefner

Crystal Harris would like you to know she barely ever came into contact with Hugh Hefner’s penis. On a Tuesday edition of Howard Stern’s show, the Playmate, “Girls Next Door” star and woman who jilted Hugh Hefner just five days before their planned wedding last month divulged the intimate secrets of their not-so-intimate relationship. “He doesn’t really take off his clothes. I’ve never seen Hef naked,” she told Stern, a stunning admission from a woman who dated a man for two years.

Continue Reading
Mary Elizabeth Williams

Mary Elizabeth Williams is a staff writer for Salon and the author of "Gimme Shelter: My Three Years Searching for the American Dream." Follow her on Twitter: @embeedubMore Mary Elizabeth Williams

Wednesday, Jul 27, 2011 12:20 AM UTC2011-07-27T00:20:00Zl, M j, Y g:i A T

Heinlein and Asimov’s WWII adventures

A new novel reimagines the lives of several famous authors in wartime Philadelphia

Heinlein and Asimov's WWII adventures

Writers like to write about writers almost as much as moviemakers like to make movies about moviemakers. On second thought, maybe more. Considering only 20th-century books and films, the litany of famous directors who have created cinema about Hollywood is considerably smaller than the catalog of famous writers who have fictionalized fellow scribblers. From Thomases Wolfe and Mann, through Herman Wouk and Philip Roth, down to David Lodge and Jay Parini, authors like nothing better than writing about the glories and sufferings of themselves and their peers.

Continue Reading

  More Paul Di Filippo

Sunday, Jul 3, 2011 4:01 PM UTC2011-07-03T16:01:00Zl, M j, Y g:i A T

Why do we still believe in monogamy?

Historian Stephanie Coontz explains why the ideal of fidelity continues to reign, despite its shameful reputation

Why do we still believe in monogamy?

It seems any time a high-profile public figure strays, someone steps forward to present open marriage as the solution. Sometimes it’s instead dubbed swinging, “responsible” non-monogamy, polyamory or, as sex columnist Dan Savage does in this weekend’s New York Times Magazine, “monogamish.”

As we’re continually reminded of the problems with monogamy — most recently courtesy of Anthony Weiner and Arnold Schwarzenegger — we seem to keep rediscovering this solution anew, or reinventing the marital wheel, if you will. There is at once a desire for a way to avoid the pain and humiliation of failed monogamy and yet resistance to actual alternatives. With these issues at the fore of the American subconscious, Times writer Mark Oppenheimer devotes his feature to detailing Savage’s personal solution: deemphasizing marital monogamy in favor of total honesty. That philosophy can manifest itself in countless ways — from simply refusing to let an affair destroy a partnership to agreeing ahead of time that sex with others is OK.

Continue Reading
Tracy Clark-Flory

Tracy Clark-Flory is a staff writer at Salon. Follow @tracyclarkflory on Twitter.  More Tracy Clark-Flory

Wednesday, Jun 15, 2011 9:16 PM UTC2011-06-15T21:16:00Zl, M j, Y g:i A T

Five pop culture items we missed

Today's catch includes: A "Muholland Drive" nightclub, Louis C.K.'s Twitter rage, and a LeAnn Rimes non-sex tape

The "Muholland Drive" night club...opening in Paris!

The "Muholland Drive" night club...opening in Paris!

1. Movie-themed nightclub of the day: Club Silencio, a new Parisian nightspot brought to you by David Lynch and based upon the Rebekah Del Rio room from “Muholland Drive.”

It kind of looks like half the nightclubs in the Meatpacking District already.

2. Sex tape rumors of the day: LeAnn Rimes claiming that a video of her changing in front of a mirror doesn’t count as a “sex tape.” We are inclined to agree. She still wants to sue the guy who put the footage online, though.

Continue Reading

Drew Grant is a staff writer for Salon. Follow her on Twitter at @videodrewMore Drew Grant

Page 1 of 2 in Polyamory

Other News