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Conn. governor details telling families of deaths

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Conn. governor details telling families of deathsConnecticut Gov. Dannel P. Malloy wipes away a tear as he recalls how and why he decided to tell the families of the Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting that their loved ones were dead during a news conference at the Capitol in Hartford, Conn., Monday, Dec. 17, 2012. (AP Photo/Jessica Hill) (Credit: AP)

HARTFORD, Conn. (AP) — An emotional Gov. Dannel P. Malloy recalled Monday how and why he decided to be the one to tell the families of the elementary school shooting victims that their loved ones were dead.

Malloy told reporters during a news conference at the State Capitol that he sensed a “reluctance” by officials to tell the anxious group waiting for news at the Sandy Hook firehouse “that the person they were waiting for was not going to return.”

The normally businesslike Malloy, who choked up and wiped away tears, had to pause several times to regain his composure as he explained how he didn’t think it was right for the families to wait a long time for the victims to be identified.

“I made the decision that — to have that go on any longer — was wrong,” he said.

Twenty-year-old gunman Adam Lanza stormed Sandy Hook Elementary School on Friday after first killing his mother. He later killed 20 students, ages 6 and 7, and six female staff at the school before committing suicide.

On Monday, Malloy attended the funeral of 6-year-old Noah Pozner while Lt. Gov. Nancy Wyman attended the funeral of 6-year-old Jack Pinto. The governor said he hopes to attend as many of the funerals for the Newtown victims as possible. In cases where there are conflicts, such as on Monday, he and Wyman will attend services separately.

Malloy said there are no words to describe the grief he has witnessed in recent days. He also spoke of the difficulty in trying to find the right thing to say to the families.

“You try to feel their pain, but you can’t. You try to find some words that you hope will be adequate, knowing that they will be inadequate, and you see little coffins and your heart has to ache,” Malloy said. “So, you tell them that you grieve for their loss, you give them a hug and you tell them their community, their state and their nation and dare I say the whole world stands with them, and you hope that makes some difference.”

Malloy also spoke to reporters for the need to resurrect a federal ban on assault weapons. He said in Connecticut, a state considered to have tough gun laws, the General Assembly should consider banning high capacity magazines of ammunition, such as the 30 rounds Lanza was carrying. The new legislative session begins in January.

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