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By Tracy Quan

July 19, 1999 | Friday, July 9

Arthur, who knows me as "Suzy," arrived last night at 6:30 on the dot and pronounced me "byoo-tee-full" in that quaint manner of his. Perhaps, sleeping in is consistent with the working girl's work ethic after all ...

Arthur is one of those cozy clients who likes to hear about my personal life. He was tickled by my latest romance -- though I don't tell him I've been staying up until all hours boffing my brains out. (That would be too unladylike.)

While I knelt, half naked over his middle, Arthur became thoughtful. "Suzy," he said, "when you have sex with someone who's not a client, do you have to pretend to be less skillful than you really are?"

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"Well errr ... that's hard to say." For one thing, "Suzy" is a rather forceful type, given to brandishing strap-ons and other instruments of questionable pleasure -- whereas Nancy (me) sometimes finds it impossible to talk dirty in bed. Not because it's dirty, mind you, but because it just sounds so stagey. Does it inevitably follow that, just because Nancy is my real name, this blushing shyness constitutes the "real" sexual me?

Almost every girl I know leads two sex lives. If you let them intersect, it can be disastrous. Once, I did something Suzy-like and maneuvered a condom onto a boyfriend while he wasn't looking. Mark and I had been fucking for a good 10 minutes before he noticed what he was wearing. I admit I was feeling mischievous -- I wanted to play a trick on him but I didn't think he would take it thatway. He gave me a resentful, puzzled look and things went from weird to worse. So I guess the answer to Arthur's question is yes.

Jasmine says she almost never gets on top when she's with her boyfriend. Of course, it's the default position with a john but when Jasmine's with a freebie she expects him to do all the work. She has no compunction at all about being a lazy lover.

This business of leading two sex lives -- it's a direct result of the double standard: "I'm having sex with guys for money but he'd better not sleep around." Every hooker I know subscribes to this. A call girl will maintain her advantage by any means necessary. The illusion of monogamy is supposed to prevent a guy from straying, and the idea is to prevent your boyfriend from noticing that you have more experience than he has. Keep him way off the scent.

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