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But experts such as prominent San Francisco psychologist Lillian Rubin insist that Clinton's dalliances should not be considered a sexual pathology. "This is very speculative, of course, but I believe that with men like Clinton, it has more to do with power than with sex -- not so much power over women as affirming the power of his existence, making him feel whole, manly. And in that context, it is more readily accomplished with women who are his inferiors." Feminist author bell hooks feels that the Clintons enjoy a solid, progressive marriage -- but one in which sex is beside the point. "Nobody understands that women can feel relieved sometimes when their husband is fucking someone else. It's hard to satisfy men with big egos. But there's no way that Hillary could come out and say, 'I don't care that Bill is fucking someone else. Sex is not the way we prove our commitment.' "In terms of their relationship, they are the most progressive couple we've ever had in the White House. People want to make them pay for that. It would be the most positive thing for our culture if we respected the love between Hillary and her man. We need a love ethic at the seat of power. And these two people do seem to deeply care about one another. So in that way they are better role models than any previous couple in the White House. Their relationship is based on respect and love. Not necessarily on sex. People hate that." The anonymous Arkansas source agreed that the Clintons' marriage was for real. "Everyone I know who is close to the Clintons describe them as passionate about each other. I think they have been in it for the long haul together. They are very unusual people. They are brilliant. They are interested in a lot of the same things. And they are passionately committed to each other." In a conversation last year with Salon, David Brock recalled that everyone he interviewed for his book who knew the young Clintons when they were students at Yale Law School in the 1970s believed Hillary was very much in love with Bill. As their marriage progressed, he added, "There seem to be these periods in '81 and '82, and again in '88 and '89, when there is consideration by one or both of them of divorce, and then (Hillary) reenters the marriage." Still, Brock conceded, "You talk to people even today who say, if you look at her, if you look at the way she looks at him ... she's still in love with him." Columnist Meredith Oakley adds, "He needs her, he needs the strength that she offers, he needs the focus that she offers. Because he can go off on tangents. And when he goes too far astray, when he gets his mind or attention off the gold, she pulls him back in line. He relies on her very much to keep him on the track, on the path that they're following. I think she is, in some respects, a source of inner strength, because he knows regardless she's going to be there. "Whatever you think of them, you have to admire the fact that they both seem to hang in there. Theirs has lasted longer than many, many marriages -- in fact, longer than most marriages that I'm aware of." Oakley believes that Hillary Clinton may have overlooked her husband's sexual peccadilloes because he brought her closer to power. "He has brought her things that she could not have accomplished on her own. He had the power that she wanted but could not get, because the times were not right for her. She was not going to be president. In fact, Hillary is not even cut out for elective politics because she doesn't like having to be accountable to people. She would make a good dictator, but she'd be lousy if you elected her to an office. She wouldn't abide the news media and things like that. "So there were places Bill could take her that she couldn't go herself, and that was the White House. He could put her in a position to accomplish the things she wanted to, like the children's issues, health-care reform and so on. He could put her in a position to have influence and she couldn't get that on her own. It's a man's world and she had finally accepted that he might be president but she would not." In psychologist Rubin's estimation, Hillary Clinton has "made a deal with the devil. It's something like women who put up with violence. She is a person who wanted to be president and knew she couldn't be. He's charming enough and bright enough that she's hung in with him." But, adds Rubin, who is the author of "The Transcendent Child," Clinton's reckless behavior has now brought the Clintons' successful political merger to the brink of disaster. "He obviously has some kind of compulsion to self-destruct, or at least to push the edge of the envelope. It's something he's done his whole life. He's gotten away with so much in terms of the character issue, he lives on the edge the whole time. "If I were to diagnose him, I would say he has a quintessential narcissistic personality disorder -- he swings from the grandiose to a little boy incapable of protecting his mother and himself. He also shows many of the worst qualities of the child of an alcoholic. In clinical practice, you see that male children of alcoholic families seem unable to fully commit to any woman, they are often very ambivalent about their relationships with women." As the Monica Lewinsky controversy continues to rage, the question on many Clinton observers' minds is whether the marriage will survive the firestorm. "They've made it through crises in the past and I know they have extraordinary love for each other," said Gene Lyons, a columnist for the Arkansas Democrat-Gazette. "But love is based on respect, and if he did this, then she's got to lose respect for him. But I don't think she believes it right now." "I think Hillary will accommodate," predicted Oakley. "What's she going to do, pack up her bags and move back in with Mama at the condo?" But others aren't so sure that the president's alleged affair with Lewinsky won't be the beginning of the end of their marriage. "I wouldn't be surprised if they divorce after he leaves office," said Rubin.
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