People are trying to set this up as Nancy Pelosi vs. Arlen Specter. But point of personal privilege here: Why is the woman, in this case Pelosi, always the shrew, the harpy  (Hillary), the rogue diva (Sarah Palin), the dangerous radical (Clinton and Palin)? Pelosi's bill added way more in tax cuts than the San Francisco Democrat would have backed on her own. But she's being blamed for sabotaging Obama: shades of Hillary! In fact, Senate Democrats wanted what Pelosi wanted on those two big points, school construction funding and state and local aid -- and so does President Obama. She's not out there on her own -- at least not yet. The sexism here is crushing.

On "Hardball" Tuesday night Chris Matthews asked me if I'm one of those San Francisco "firebrands" who want the Democrats to hold out for what they are trying to get, even if it blows up the Collins-Nelson compromise. I hedged on TV, but I think I am. Not to blow anything up, but because I believe, to be effective, the stimulus needs to be bigger than the compromise, and it needs more of what the House and Senate put in it. I hope Obama fights to get school construction and aid for cities and states back in the bill. In my beautiful, tragic California, the DMV was closed last Friday, judges are releasing convicts from overcrowded prisons, and we'll be laying off teachers, firefighters and police if there's no relief soon. Trying to save or create 4 million jobs, as Obama says his plan will do, is a joke if cities and states are meanwhile laying off millions of workers. Obama knows that; he has to act.

I think Obama came out of the gate compromising too much with Republicans, and he admitted as much at his press conference Monday night. "Just in terms of the historic record here: The Republicans were brought in early and were consulted. Remember when we introduced our framework: They were pleasantly surprised and complimentary about the tax cuts that were presented in that framework. Those tax cuts are still in there! I suppose what I could have done was I could have started out with no tax cuts, knowing I was gonna want some, and maybe that's the lesson I should have learned." Maybe it is.

Politics aside, I think Obama should stand up for the stimulus bill he and his economic advisors believe will help the economy -- which most people say is a big stimulus bill, not one trimmed by Republicans for political reasons. He should push for the measure he thinks will work. Let me go back to my daughter again. I used this analogy today on "Hardball": If she was sick, and doctors told me they needed to do certain aggressive things to make her well, but someone came along and said, well, maybe we can't be so aggressive, maybe we have to compromise and do less than what the experts advise -- well, I would fight like hell to get the measures I'd been told would make her well. Nobody would stop me. And I expect Obama to do no less for our economy.

And if he holds out and loses Collins, Specter and Olympia Snowe, maybe the Democrats can revisit the tyranny of the minority rules they agreed to (but never used well) banishing the old-fashioned filibuster. I'd like to see John McCain and David Vitter up all night, on CSPAN, talking against the stimulus bill, sharing their empty ideas with all of America. Clearly they have decided their salvation as a party is, belatedly, being the party of small government, after they doubled the deficit under Bush. Good luck with that, fellas.

I think Obama should say: Party on, GOP. But we're not going to let you continue to wreck our economy the way you have these last eight years. According to Gallup, Americans back Obama's stimulus plan, and Obama, overwhelmingly this week, despite some missteps on appointees as well as the stimulus sales job. He's got political capital to spend -- I mean, invest -- and if he does it wisely, even Republicans will prosper. He's got to call their bluff on this.

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