I am writing this because I don't know what to do and I need perspective. The core question: Should I stay in my 15-year relationship, or end it?

So I'm putting it out there, crowd-sourcing the question to someone I can trust to give an honest point of view simply because you don't know either of us and have no vested interest in the outcome. Also because I don't know what else to do.

I have read the books, tried the counseling, and searched my soul. I am tired of living in this awful limbo. When do you know it's time to pull the trigger, cut bait, get up and go, call in the lawyers?

The basics: (I am refraining from specifying gender here because I want to avoid all those tired gender-based tropes):

Me: reserved, analytical, bookish, professional, smart, like to think I'm fun. Traits that affect our relationship negatively: I withdraw, get resentful and snippy.

Spouse: outgoing, accomplished, energetic. Traits that affect our relationship negatively: critical, judgmental, overbearing, controlling, short fuse.

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