I kid, of course. The glossy surveyed 68 "relationship experts" and found that the majority think X-rated material can harm relationships. The magazine also found that said experts believe porn damages women’s confidence, which is rich coming from a publication that inflames women's insecurities in order to sell them a consumerist wet dream. I’m not going to even address the countless glaring research flaws here -- that would be giving the survey far too much credit -- instead, this seems a good excuse to talk about about how porn can be used to the benefit of relationships.

This isn’t at all to negate the potential for porn to be legitimately damaging. Reasonable people can agree that mainstream porn, as with most popular media, often produces unrealistic aesthetics and expectations -- not to mention poor sex education and instruction, right? That's something worth discussing in a relationship, no doubt. But instead of condemning all erotic material as an enemy to sex, what about taking the more productive route of talking about how porn can actually be good for relationships.

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