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Mel Gibson scandal: Ignoring domestic abuse
Yes, he used a racial epithet -- but let's not forget the main issue here
According to reports, Mel Gibson has a tendency to say racist things. First, there was the “Jews are responsible for all wars” incident and most recently he told his ex Oksana Grigorieva that if she went outside in a particular outfit he disapproved of she would be “raped by a pack of ni**ers.” What has been overlooked in almost every single report of that incident is why Grigorieva was tape recording Gibson in the first place. She needed proof. Proof that Mel Gibson was abusive to her not only emotionally, but physically. She had already provided dental records in their custody fight to prove that he knocked her teeth out but Grigorieva still felt she needed more evidence to show the court that Gibson is much more than just politically incorrect, he’s dangerous. Why is it that the detail about Gibson knocking Grigorieva’s teeth out was literally a throwaway line at the very end of an article with a splashy headline detailing his latest racist diatribe? Why did it take so long for them to launch a formal investigation into his abuse?
It is clear that the media and the public at large avoid talking about domestic violence. It’s seen as a private matter and is not to be spoken about openly. The problem with that is that this tendency to push it aside and out of our minds is teaching our young people exactly the wrong lesson. Another domestic violence incident that was in the news recently was Chris Brown and Rihanna after their now infamous drive in a Los Angeles suburb the night before the 2009 Grammy Awards. After his emotional performance at the BET Awards, many people declared Chris Brown forgiven. Bygones. He cried and apologized so we must all take it easy on him and just get past the “situation with Rihanna.” Let me be clear: Domestic violence is not a “situation.” We need to call it what it is. We need to point out that the repeating cycle of domestic abuse includes remorse and we should not allow Chris Brown or Mel Gibson or anyone else to simply come back and make a tear-filled apology. We must not be enablers. Domestic violence is the systematic destruction of another person emotionally, mentally, verbally, financially, socially, physically, and sexually. Domestic violence is the de-humanization of another person that can leave scars lasting a lifetime.
This year in the United States, 3 million women will be abused. This statistic is staggering and proves that we need to teach our young people how to properly handle conflict in their romantic relationships and that starts with how it is discussed. We must teach them that a women or man who yells or curses out their partner does not ever deserve to be hit. Ever. No, not even if they are hit first. No, not even if they cheat on them. Everyone should be responsible for their own actions and reactions. That is the lesson we should begin to teach our young people and stop trying to justify the actions of the abusive by blaming the abused. Victim blaming, while commonplace in our society, should no longer be acceptable. It sends the wrong message. It is dangerous to young people because it takes the heat off of the person who is actually committing the violence. Simply put, the blame for abuse should be placed squarely at the feet of the person choosing to be abusive. We should no longer allow people to imply that it is acceptable to abuse someone if they “deserve” it.
No one deserves it. Period.
Domestic violence is a cycle of abuse that is primarily about power and control and whether it is done by men or women in a relationship it is our responsibility to call it what it is. The lives of our young people depend on it.
Mel Gibson defended by gay adopted brother
Sibling interview fails to answer the question: If the star is so tolerant, why does he say such terrible things?
Mel Gibson in "What Women Want." Mel Gibson may have permanently sundered his relationship with the American public after half a decade of bad publicity – including a famous anti-Semitic tirade after being pulled over for drunken driving in Malibu and the leaked audiotapes in which he threatened ex Oksana Grigorieva with physical violence (with some racial slurs thrown in for good measure) — but there is still at least one person in the world willing to defend the actor’s honor. That would be Andrew Gibson, 43: Mel’s gay adopted brother.
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Jodie Foster distances herself from Mel Gibson
The actress tones down her admiration for her movie's troubled star. Is it a smart move?
It’s been a while since Jodie Foster has touched on the subject of Mel Gibson — and in that time, it looks like she got herself a mini version of the ten-foot pole the rest of the industry has been using on him. On “Letterman” Thursday night, the actress/director, promoting her new movie “The Beaver,” could not have been more uncomfortably restrained in her assessment of her leading man. Foster, who back in March was gushing, teary-eyed, to the Hollywood Reporter that “God, I love that man,” still had kind words for the actor. She told Letterman, “He’s very good in the movie; he’s a very good friend,” and didn’t hesitate to declare, again, “He’s wonderful in the movie.”
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The role Mel Gibson was born to play
The actor's performance in "The Beaver" is peculiar, disturbing -- and utterly brilliant
Jodie Foster and Mel Gibson in "The Beaver" Even before Mel Gibson’s most recent set of personal and legal difficulties — i.e., the “revelation” that he sometimes behaves like an unbelievable prick, and may be dangerously unstable — “The Beaver” was always going to be a weird footnote to his career. But both within the universe of Hollywood and the universe of the film, there was a logic to it: Take an immensely gifted actor, once a dominant star but now viewed as a bigot and a wacko, and unleash him on a dark, ambitious script about a character suffering a schizophrenic breakdown. Add the fact that Gibson’s director and co-star is perhaps the most respected woman in the film industry and roll the dice; if producer Steve Golin was imagining a possible upside of “Being John Malkovich” or “Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind” here, it’s no wonder, since he helped make those movies too.
Continue Reading CloseMel Gibson says he was “betrayed”
The actor begins his image rehabilitation with a new interview -- and still doesn't get it
Mel Gibson appears at Los Angeles Airport Courthouse Friday, March 11, 2011, in Los Angeles where Gibson pleaded no contest to a misdemeanor spousal battery charge. He was sentenced to 36 months of probation and ordered to attend 52 weeks of domestic violence counseling. Gibson, 55, was accused of striking then-girlfriend Oksana Grigorieva during a fight in January 2010 at the actors Malibu home. He was charged after a lengthy investigation by authorities. (AP Photo/Mark Boster/Pool)(Credit: Mark Boster) He’s back. With his new movie, “The Beaver,” just weeks away from release, Oscar-winning hothead and domestic abuser Mel Gibson is at last on the full career rehab track, granting Deadline his first interview since a series of explosively vitriolic, threatening conversations with his ex Oksana Grigorieva emerged a year ago. Though he’s a long way from the sputtering loon of the tapes and says “of course” he regrets what he said on them, the real revelation of the interview is how easy it appears for Gibson to believe he’s a victim too.
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Why are Christian movies so awful?
As "Soul Surfer" demonstrates, "faith-based" movies are a boom industry. Do they have to be so lame?
Stills from "Soul Surfer," "The Passion of Christ," "Fireproof" When a star teenage surfer named Bethany Hamilton lost her left arm in a 2003 shark attack, and then got back on her surfboard just three weeks later, you could hear another species of shark — the ones from Hollywood, who turn dramatic real-life events into movies — swimming to the scene. Not only did Hamilton’s story have an attractive and charismatic central character, it also came with a moral message attached and (to think more cynically) a much-desired target demographic. Hamilton’s family were evangelical Christians who understood what had happened to Bethany as a personal and providential test of faith, and also saw it as an opportunity to testify to the wider world.
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