Brigitte Frase
“Labyrinth of Desire” by Rosemary Sullivan
Are the great heroines of literature caught in the grip of grand, glorious passion, or are they just women who love too much?
Love in the Western world has a notorious history and an irresistible hold on our imaginations. With its reputation for risk taking, law breaking, greed and unseemly hunger, its heedlessness of convention and readiness to suffer, it tempts even as it whispers: This way lies danger.
This is not the kind of love you bring home to the folks or submit to Ann Landers, who always recommends a friendly, estimable, true affection that leads to a happily ever after. (There’s no room for any other kind of amorous truth in her philosophy.) Wild love does not thrive in domesticity and it doesn’t do Valentine’s Day with its Hallmark card schmaltz, waltz and chocolate.
In “Labyrinth of Desire,” Canadian writer Rosemary Sullivan attempts to bring passionate, obsessive love into the cool light of everyday life, the better to see and demystify it. Eros inflames Anna and Vronsky, Tristan and Isolde, or even D.H. Lawrence and Frieda, Taylor and Burton. (No, not Wallis Simpson and her prince; they fell more for a pampered lifestyle than for each other.) People like you and I may also have grand passions, maybe once or twice a lifetime. Perhaps sexual lightning strikes because myth and literature have primed us for it. Possibly there’s even a biological component. Apparently, neuroscientist Steven Pinker thinks it plausible that we’re programmed for romantic love, though I can’t fathom what he might mean besides lust.
Sullivan’s meditation on extreme love begins promisingly — I’ll return later to the short story she offers in Chapter 1 as illustration — but then chickens out. Her voice, at first approving of ecstasy, becomes a feminist pursed-lip Viewing With Alarm. We get the boringly familiar pep talk on taking control of our love lives. Turns out it’s not passion we want at all, but to be “cherished, to be accompanied.” Stick to the subject, Rosemary; you said yourself that passion is not a civilized or kindly emotion.
She introduces the subject by evoking “hunger and longing, desperation and ecstasy.” Passionate love is obsessive: “It happens when life stops us suddenly in our tracks and we love in a way that we didn’t know was possible. Thinking/talking/ dreaming/obsessing — life is suspended on the thread of one other human being.” Intriguingly, she suggests that this kind of overwhelming love is “one of life’s necessary assignments. It cracks us open.” It is “a cataclysm breaking up the empty landscape.”
Although it feels like a bolt from the blue, it tends to happen at a turning point in our lives. We feel stale, trapped, without a clue how to escape and remake life. In a real way, we blaze a new connection to ourselves through ecstasies of the body and blown-awake emotions. I think Sullivan is on the right track here. At least, I can corroborate her intuition based on my own experience and that of three, four … let’s say a number of friends.
But her tiny chapters with big titles (“The Demon Lover,” Pleasurable Cruelty,” “Erotic Diabolism”) deliver no passionate news. They evade sexiness altogether and settle for a bright “Hey girls, listen up!” pajama party voice. Her scholarship is breezy. For example, she writes about Aristophanes and his theory that male/female, being once conjoined, then split apart, forever after to seek the original union; but she doesn’t seem to realize that this Aristophanes is not the historical playwright but a character in Plato’s Symposium.
Her analyses of literary texts from Dante to Flaubert to Jean Rhys all yield only the same thin tale of women who love too much, become trapped in illusion and end miserably. Sullivan hasn’t heard that real men, as well as fictional ones, are also subject to delirium, obsession, hunger, and that, for a full-blown passion to erupt, the desire must be mutual, at least at the start.
Some of her examples aren’t about passion at all. She tells the story of Simone de Beauvoir and Sartre, the grand philosophical couple of Paris in the ’40s and ’50s. At some early point in the relationship, Beauvoir became a sort of procuress to Sartre, who bedded his students and hers, insatiably. It’s a tawdry scene, but what has it to do with passion? The big deal in Beauvoir’s sex life was never Sartre. While “with” him, as she continued to be, she fell for the all-American tough guy writer from Chicago, Nelson Algren. That was her grand passion. A roman ` clef, “The Mandarins,” followed.
Charlotte Brontë, whose novel “Villette” was based on her experiences as a student at the Pensionnat Heger in Brussels, fell in love with Constantin Heger, who did not reciprocate but also never led her on. So Charlotte was left with an obsession for a fantasy; another tale that isn’t quite on point, but Sullivan doesn’t distinguish between very different sorts of love scenarios. She’s already forgotten her original subject and is now very sad about the psychology of women who fall victim to delusions. That is a much belabored story, and Sullivan wastes her labor.
Consider the short story, I suspect at least partly autobiographical, that opens the book. A young Canadian woman, bored with her life, goes to Mexico City looking for adventure. At a gallery exhibit, she notices a dark-haired man, not conventionally handsome but exuding “a kind of seductive arrogance.”
When she leaves, he follows her to a cafe. They share the stories of their lives. He shows her his studio and in no time they’re having fabulous sex. But a few weeks later, at a party, another woman greets him “as though publicly staking a claim.” Later that night, the same woman lets herself into his room and flees when she sees our heroine and her lover naked in his bed. He follows her and when he returns, everything has changed. He becomes cold, contemptuous, unreliable, evasive. When our desperate young woman confronts him, he reacts with disgust. Another guy who can’t commit.
Each of the chapters that follow is meant to deconstruct a strand of the story. But the story is not only trite, it’s a rigged case study. It does not feel psychologically true and what Sullivan teases out of the story is — surprise — exactly what she put in. Her tale is less about passion than about a woman making an ideal of a shallow man.
Nor can I detect any signs that the affair has broken the stalemate in the woman’s life. She goes home totally miserable and takes to her bed, feeling her “life shrivel.” But eventually she will learn, Sullivan tells us, that her passion was just a route to self-realization. The guy didn’t matter per se. Extreme love means having a man be your personal growth trainer? I always thought passion meant two people fully alive to each other.
There are so many sexy and fascinating questions that never occur to Rosemary Sullivan. She’s doing aesthetic philosophy, very lite, thinking readers will fancy a bit of high-toned talk but then want short sentences and paragraphs, and short ideas. Well, that’s putting thought as well as style on a starvation diet.
In one chapter, Sullivan brings up love at first sight. Her own parents, she adds, married on the strength of it. But what’s that all about, that recognition that occurs in life as often as in literature, and makes for long marriages as often as broken hearts? The Greeks thought of vision as a tactile sense. Your eyes can literally grope and enter me; I emit rays that enter your soul through your eyes. That’s one rich subject. Another is the tension between fullness and lack, overflow and longing. Both metaphors describe sexual passion and do so in many cultures and periods. I would have loved to hear more about them. And then there is imagination and excess. We dream and conceive of much more than we do. So the most tantalizing fantasy is to imagine bodies harnessed to the mind’s play, and then to try to make it real.
“Blackbird: A Childhood Lost and Found” by Jennifer Lauck
A memoirist who survived a childhood of neglect and catastrophe reinhabits her younger self, with powerful and harrowing results.
I don’t pay much attention to jacket copy. No matter how celebrated the blurbists — or should that be blurbers? — they’re often friends or former teachers of the author, or they’re people who write in the same vein and hope their praise of the baby book will remind readers of their own so recently hot commodity, now a little long in the tooth. Since good writers have a hard enough time finding good readers in the first place, trying for a little coattail ride is an understandable tactic, albeit wasted on reviewers.
Continue Reading Close“Vertigo” by W.G. Sebald
The tale of a strange quest, haunted by the ghost of Kafka, from one of the oddest great writers around.
W. G. Sebald is the oddest great writer I’ve ever encountered. Bear with me, because it’s going to be difficult to convince you how luminous and ultimately satisfying are his strange ways of composing a book. The narrator of “Vertigo,” a German who has lived for 30 years in east-central England, shares his biography with one Winfried Georg Sebald, but he remains somewhat out of focus; he is a haunted, keening, ghostly wanderer. Likewise, the photos of people, documents and places studding each chapter are even grainier and fuzzier than in Sebald’s previous books. They’re covered with the dust of unreliable memory, one of the themes of this novel-as-meditation.
Continue Reading Close“Ten Thousand Sorrows: The Extraordinary Journey of a Korean War Orphan” by Elizabeth Kim
An immigrant's brutal and disturbing memoir of abuse at the hands of fundamentalist parents and a sadistic husband.
As a little girl walking with her mother, Elizabeth Kim hears herself called a “honhyol,” “a despicable name that meant nonperson, mixed race, animal.” Shortly after the end of the Korean War, the mother had returned from Seoul to her native village in shame, pregnant with a GI’s child. Mother and daughter live as outcasts in a hut at the edge of town, and from the moment she can walk, the child works alongside her “Omma” in the rice fields.
When the girl is about 4 — she will never know the exact year and day of her unrecorded birth — her grandfather and her uncle demand she be sold as a servant. When her mother refuses, the men string the woman up in her own house. Kim, a witness to this “honor killing,” still sees “those milk-white feet” twitch, as if in a dance, then grow still.
Continue Reading CloseCassandra complex
Sven Birkerts says computers are destroying literature. He couldn't be more wrong.
Sven Birkerts stopped by our city last
year to sign his latest book,
“Readings,” and to bring his Save the
Book crusade to the Minneapolis Friends
of the Library. I went to hear him
because I consider myself not just a
friend but a devoted parishioner. I
think of libraries and bookstores as
lay-missionary posts, functioning as the
secular outreach program of the Church
of the Word. Also, I have a personal
stake in his subject because some years
ago I wrote a long review-essay on the
future of the book in the age of the
Internet and one of the sources I
consulted was, naturally, Birkerts’
book-length lament on the same topic,
“The Gutenberg Elegies.”
“S.: A Novel About the Balkans” by Slavenka Drakulic
A fierce novel brings home the horrors of the Bosnian war -- rape, torture and the sexual slavery of Muslim women.
Just how easily my distracted sympathies flitter hither and yon, from Somalia to Kosovo to Chechnya, whenever the latest TV footage bids me turn my head was brought home to me by “S.: A Novel About the Balkans.” The book forced me to stare at an already half-forgotten horror: the Bosnian war of 1992-95, in which the Serbian minority laid siege to Sarajevo and began rounding up and massacring Bosnia’s Muslim population.
In 1993 Croatian journalist Slavenka Drakulic published “The Balkan Express: Fragments From the Other Side of War.” Like Martha Gellhorn in earlier wars, she sent dispatches from the home front describing the fragile texture of everyday life. She understands the woman who wants to buy high-heeled shoes in Sarajevo, where it’s become dangerous to be out at any time of day, and struggles to connect with a teenage soldier-killer who could be her son. And in every piece she takes readings of the seeping poison of ethnic hatred that is gradually permeating public and private discourse.
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