What I've discovered is that every single day of this marriage, I've learned more about me than about Ernie. Until I took responsibility for my own needs and for making changes, until I stopped expecting my husband to live up to my fantasies, I often felt powerless and frustrated ...
Is that how you want to live with your husband? Of course not.
Can you have a happy marriage forever? Yes. It can be done.
-- From "Being Married Happily Forever" by Tova Borgnine.