Falling in love with Mr./Ms. Wrong


Brother Void
June 29, 2002 1:21AM (UTC)

"Let our scars fall in love."
-- Galway Kinnell

We're all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you've been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there's no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. It isn't until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems -- the ones that make you truly who you are -- that you're ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you're looking for. You're looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person; it has got to be the right wrong person -- someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, "This is the problem I want to have."

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I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.

Reprinted with permission from "Daily Afflictions" by Andrew Boyd, published by W.W. Norton. To order a copy, click here


Brother Void

Brother Void is the alter ego of Andrew Boyd. More information about Brother Void and his book, "Daily Afflictions," can be found at his Web site.

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