To breed or not to breed

10 reasons not to have kids and 10 reasons to reproduce, this week in Table Talk.


Salon Staff
April 21, 2006 12:00PM (UTC)

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Parent or Child-Free: The Road Not Taken

Zak - 11:46 am Pacific Time - Apr 18, 2006 - #691 of 729

10 reasons you would like/not like to have a kid. Go.

Verbal Remedy - 01:00 pm Pacific Time - Apr 18, 2006 - #692 of 731

10. Nobody under the age of 10 will ever throw up on me.

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Zak - 01:08 pm Pacific Time - Apr 18, 2006 - #693 of 729

9. When I have bags under my eyes they are the result of staying out too late at a pub with friends.

MissyBoo - 01:16 pm Pacific Time - Apr 18, 2006 - #694 of 729

8. I don't have to worry about finding "the best" schools.

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Karenem - 01:19 pm Pacific Time - Apr 18, 2006 - #695 of 729

7. Taking sick time/vacation when I want to instead of when the daycare provider does.

Zak - 01:31 pm Pacific Time - Apr 18, 2006 - #696 of 729

6. Avoiding the obligation to find a kid-friendly event, location, dvd etc. for my leisure time.

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5. A sense that I'm fulfilling my obligations to the next generation by leaving a smaller eco-footprint (i.e. fewer consumers).

4. Fewer financial worries about my current and future life.

clemencedane - 01:52 pm Pacific Time - Apr 18, 2006 - #699 of 729

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3. No risk of ruining someone's psyche.

Zak - 02:21 pm Pacific Time - Apr 18, 2006 - #700 of 729

2. Not having to build a tolerance for screaming babies or children, or equally exasperating loud activities. I think some of my earliest child-free thoughts were due to my intolerance for noise.

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1. Not having to spend my time thinking and worrying about what will be good for the kid (child-rearing techniques, health, neighborhood, etc.).

I'm sure there are many more reasons, what are yours? And those on the "childed" side, what are the benefits you think I should consider?

(I'm not trying to stir up a flame war, I'm seriously contemplating this issue.)

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Jen - 02:40 pm Pacific Time - Apr 18, 2006 - #701 of 729

OK, here's the first 10 that come to mind, mundane and profound all jumbled together:

1. Endless entertainment. I laugh far more often than I did before I had kids. They are damned funny people.

2. Get to learn about one of my favorite subjects, how humans learn, firsthand.

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3. Get to explore another favorite interest, language acquisition, firsthand.

4. Have a reason to go to all the fun places you might not go without a child like kiddie amusement parks and museums.

5. The social aspects of parenting in this community -- lots of interaction with similar families and lots of stuff to do, and I feel connected with the place and schools and institutions more than I probably would have forced myself to do without the kids.

6. What the hell, I'll say it -- looking at them. I think my kids are beautiful (see link in prefs) and I sometimes can't believe I had anything to do with creating them.

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7. Endorphins -- having a young child is kind of like the endorphin equivalent of falling in love, constantly. I'm constantly being reminded with a sort of emotional whoomph in my chest how much I adore them.

8. Giving birth. I'm very glad that I got to experience the amazing rush of pregnancy and childbirth. (I can also give you a list of 10 things I don't like about pregnancy and childbirth, but still, you have to admit, that a body can do that is pretty damned amazing.)

9. The satisfaction of working at something that is difficult but worth doing well.

10. Making my husband a father. It's amazing to see him with them and wonderful to partner with him in this. We were a great couple, and I feared losing that, but I love us as parents too. It does take a lot more work sometimes, but difficult does not necessarily = bad.

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11. Laughing toddler crawling into bed in the morning. It just does not get better than that.


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