Baby talk

I\'m a seasoned sex writer, but when a lover asked me to play his \"mommy,\" I was stunned -- and pleasantly surprised

Published March 7, 2012 6:30AM (EST)

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"I want to be a good boy for my mommy," said the man. He was in his 40s, and he was naked in bed with me. I guess this wasn't your typical second date.

It wasn't the first time the "m" word had been mentioned in our dirty talk, either. But when it came up on the phone, I could just laugh it off or pretend I hadn't heard him. Not this time. Now, it was real. He wanted me to pretend to be his mommy — his naughty, flirtatious, sexy mommy. Even for a professional sex writer like me, with 19 years of adventures behind her, "age play" was out there.

A subset of the catch-all term BDSM, age play is defined by the Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health as “sexual role-playing where one partner pretends to be older and in control while the other pretends to be much younger.” This could mean fantasizing about being siblings, or teacher and student. According to "The Toybag Guide to Age Play" by Lee Harrington, the most popular form is parent-child. People like it for all sorts of reasons: to be silly, the taboo factor, to give up control, to explore an inner identity, to enjoy "never having to grow up." I'd heard of it, but it definitely didn't so...

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By Rachel Kramer Bussel

Rachel Kramer Bussel is the author of "Sex & Cupcakes: A Juicy Collection of Essays" and the editor of more than 70 anthologies, including "The Big Book of Orgasms" and the Best Women's Erotica of the Year series. She teaches erotica writing workshops online and in-person, writes widely about books, culture, sex, dating and herself, and Tweets @raquelita.

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