Sex after a stroke

"Am I Normal?": A woman whose husband is recovering from a brain hemorrhage wants to reignite their love life

By Tracy Clark-Flory

Published March 16, 2012 12:00AM (EDT)

        (<a href='http://www.shutterstock.com/pic-43355056/'>Yuri Arcurs</a> via <a href='http://www.shutterstock.com/'>Shutterstock</a>)
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Dear Tracy,

My husband had a stroke last summer (a brain hemorrhage) at 35 -- coincidentally, I noticed something was wrong right after we had sex. He survived with some relatively minor mobility problems and some issues with aphasia (speech problems) and we're attempting to get our lives back together after a week in the ICU, five weeks inpatient rehabilitation, and several months of outpatient rehabilitation.

I am certainly not blaming the stroke on sex (although the EMTs sure had a field day with the information!), but I am having trouble getting back into having a sex life. For so many weeks and months, I was solely in charge of everything: schedules, medication, work, food, finances -- the whole deal. Being sick, particularly with neurological deficits, unfortunately tends to infantilize a person to a certain degree, and I'm having some trouble coming away from the role as Sole Adult in Cha...

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