"Sex and the City" screwed up my sex life

As a teen watching the show, I got the impression that all women magically knew what they wanted in bed

By Emily Shire
Published July 25, 2013 11:45AM (EDT)
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I still remember my first time.

I finally got to watch my first episode of “Sex and the City” in 2002 on a family vacation in a hotel with premium cable. Although the viewing experience was punctuated by my parents shouting "close your eyes" every time Samantha brought out her vibrator (which happens a lot in this particular episode, “Critical Conditions”), I instantly fell in love with the humor, fashion and fierceness of the series. Never before in a sitcom had I heard women discussing sex, power and relationships so unfiltered. I knew when I grew up I wanted to be just like these confident, glamorous women.

But as I re-watch the series over a decade later as a single woman living in New York City, I find myself distracted by how unrealistically dreamlike their jobs, apartments, clothes, trendy nightclub jaunts and, most of all, sex lives are. I still very much enjoy the series, but the glitter of “Sex and the City” has somewhat faded as I’ve grown to realize these women inhabit a world so glamorous it glo...

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Emily Shire

Emily Shire is a writer living in New York City. You can read more on her website, emilyshire.com, and follow her @eshire.

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