It's not because she got fat or he won't do laundry: Here are the real reasons people cheat

A few extra pounds causes infidelity? Not exactly — the real reasons are much more complex

By Tracy Clark-Flory

Published May 24, 2015 11:00PM (EDT)

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(Showtime/Steven Lippman)

Men cheat because their wives are fat. That's one odious bit of conventional wisdom that gained airtime recently courtesy of Noel Biderman, CEO of Ashley Madison, during his appearance on an episode of "Inside Amy Schumer." It isn't news that the wildly successful extramarital "dating site" views overweight women as a cause for cheating: The company once ran a controversial ad explicitly suggesting as much. Is it true, though? Do men cheat simply because of a couple extra pounds?

I mean, obviously not. What a douche-nozzle. David Ley, a a clinical psychologist and author of “Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them," agrees.

“That's a ridiculously simplistic assertion,” says Ley. "People cheat for many reasons and the attractiveness of their partner has little to do with it. Look at Christie Brinkley's husband, and any number of men who are married to beautiful women, who engage in infidelity.” Biderman may be the CEO of an incredibly popular infidelity website, but it doesn't mean that he understands why people cheat. So, then, why...

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