Checking in: Why is hotel sex so hot?

There's something about staying in a hotel that lends itself to feeling sexual. Here's why

Published November 4, 2015 11:58PM (EST)

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This article originally appeared on AlterNet.

AlterNetIan Kerner, a licensed psychotherapist and sex counselor, says hotels are a great place for sex. Why? "The novelty of the hotel room is going to stimulate dopamine transmission in the brain, which pays a big role in arousal and sexual excitement," the author told the Huffington Post.

He added, “There’s a psychological mindset when people check into a hotel that they can pamper themselves. There’s something a little luxurious, languorous, sumptuous about a hotel that lends itself to feeling sexual.”

In addition to soft sheets and room service, hotel rooms provide occupants a space to relax and escape the stresses of everyday life.

"For sexual arousal to occur, especially in women, parts of the brain associated with anxiety and stress need to turn off," Kerner told HuffPost. "So I often advise couples to turn their bedroom into a love nest that’s free from distractions. I think a hotel—as a sort of generic luxury—automatically helps people tune out the anxiety. There aren’t photos of kids, bills that need to be paid, books that need to be read; you’re in a place out of time, out of your life. And the shutting down or the pushing away of that anxiety, creating a boundary of anxiety and stressors of everyday life, is going to contribute to sexual arousal."

According to Kerner, just the idea of being somewhere different is enough to put a boost in libido. "Sometimes sex therapists often advise patients to switch up their sex scripts and try having sex in different positions, or try having sex in different rooms.”

"So inherently, going to a hotel is going to provide a break in the routine that’s also going to be stimulating."

H/T Huffington Post

Carrie Weisman is an AlterNet staff writer who focuses on sex, relationships and culture. Got tips, ideas or a first-person story? Email her

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