We are failing our girls

The daughters of our so-called village deserve better than to be exposed to the Bill O'Reillys of the world

By D. Watkins

Editor at Large

Published April 15, 2017 10:30PM (EDT)


My friend Just stopped by my office at the university recently to grab some books. It was daddy-daughter day for him, and the duo had already been out for brunch and ice cream. “Yo, she loves reading, fam, like you wouldn’t believe it!” he said to me as they headed over.

“No prob, Just,” I replied. “I have like 20 books for her — Zadie Smith, Jacqueline Woodson and all that. I’ll be here waiting for y'all.”

Just came home from the feds a year ago. He was caught up with a wild drug crew back in the early 2000s and just finished his bid. The pudgy Just in the oversize Oriole hat and matching New Balances I once knew is now all protein-powder cut up, complete with extra neck and forehead veins like a GNC model.

He rang my phone again. “Yo, D., buzz us in.”

I flicked the switch and they walked into my office looking like personal trainers in their fitted Under Armour sweats and bright white Under Armour sneakers.

“No, I don’t want a gym membership, please go away!” I said to them. They both laughed with the same expression on their faces, in the same pitch, and finished with the same smirk.

“I told you, baby, Watkins is crazy,” Just said, picking a piece of lint out of his daughter's hair and putting her ponytail back in place. “Crazy as a fox, but he’s a good brother.”

“Oh, I know he crazy,” she said, flicking her long ponytail to the other side of her head and extending her hand. “I read some of his essays in school."

“Excuse my father," she said to me. "My name is Alicia.”

“I know you,” I replied, shaking her little hand. “I remember when you were a little baby. Time flies.”

She’s 14 years old now, proud and brilliantly curious.

“Mr. Watkins, my teacher didn’t believe me when I told her you were friends with my dad," she said. "You are a real writer. I can’t believe there is a real writer from our neighborhood."

Then the questions started.

"Are you rich or basic?"

"How much does this office cost?"

"I want to be a writer. What should I do first?”

She kept going. I tried to answer most of them, but they kept coming.

“Well, it starts with reading and writing every day,” I responded.

Just nodded in agreement as I placed the box of books in front of them. Alicia's eyes lit up and she started taking books out of the box, thumbing through pages and murmuring passages.

“See, I told you, D.!” Just said.“She a real worm in the books.”

We both looked at him. “Bookworm!”

“Y'all nerds know what I mean!”

They kicked it for an hour or so before leaving. During that time we tossed around ideas about our generation versus Alicia’s, new music and setting a good example for young people and what that means.

“Thank you again, Mr. D.,” Alicia said on their way out.

“No, thank you!” I responded. “And y'all stay blessed.”

I was so happy for them — happy that he’s out of prison and making legal money, but even happier that their relationship is good despite his years away, and that I’m in a position to give away books by great writers who are popular with kids.

The whole episode made me think of the old “It takes a village to raise a child” saying. I believe it really does. But is that enough? When I checked the news after Just and Alicia left, I saw that Fox News has paid out $13 million in settlements related to sexual harassment claims against Bill O'Reilly. News about this alleged reign of terror aimed at his female colleagues canceled my little positivity parade.

O’Reilly, who has a history of being the undisputed champ of on-air racism, will most likely suffer zero consequences for his actions. He will continue to spew his ignorance and hate to millions of people while making millions of dollars, and the Earth will continue to spin.

A young woman like Alicia is lucky to have parents who love her, care about her and are willing to protect her as best as they can from creeps like O’Reilly. But doesn’t she deserve more? These news stories shouldn’t exist in 2017, and are a clear example of that greater village failing all of our Alicias. What are we as family members, artists and citizens responsible for? If the answer is providing protection or playing a role in creating a world where young women feel safe, then we are failing miserably.

As a society, are we so distracted and so money hungry, so happy to place political ideology over morality, that we can't even strip the platform away from someone like Bill O’Reilly, who privately and publicly uses his power to destroy the lives of women?

Shame on us. At what point did ratings and popularity trump moral responsibility?

By D. Watkins

D. Watkins is an Editor at Large for Salon. He is also a writer on the HBO limited series "We Own This City" and a professor at the University of Baltimore. Watkins is the author of the award-winning, New York Times best-selling memoirs “The Beast Side: Living  (and Dying) While Black in America”, "The Cook Up: A Crack Rock Memoir," "Where Tomorrows Aren't Promised: A Memoir of Survival and Hope" as well as "We Speak For Ourselves: How Woke Culture Prohibits Progress." His new books, "Black Boy Smile: A Memoir in Moments," and "The Wire: A Complete Visual History" are out now.

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