She called me a "manwhore"

When he dumped his ex, she told everyone that he was easy. Now he wants to know: Can a man be "slut-shamed"?

By Tracy Clark-Flory
Published February 10, 2012 1:00AM (EST)
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You know this contemptible practice of "slut-shaming"? Well, I was wondering if it was possible for it to be done in reverse to a man. Or if there is a different terminology?

I was with a girl once and she ended up cheating on me, so I ended things. That made her a little bent out of shape. She told her friends I was a manwhore, and even shared pictures we'd made together. Now, they were flattering, but I still felt that it was a) a total betrayal of trust, and b) even if complimentary, the implication given was still I was easily acquired and of loose moral standing.

I remember trying to voice my discontent about it to some female and male friends who said, basically, "That's terrible, but hey, she's making you look good!" Furthermore, there was an assumption (mainly by the girls, oddly) that being a "manwhore" was acceptable and brag-worthy whereas being a slut was not. I found...

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