My husband had to learn sex again, and I had to become one tenacious bitch

Richard's memory loss rocked our happy marriage. Our way back required arguments, patience and trips to Babeland

By Sonya Lea

Published July 20, 2015 12:00AM (EDT)

 A photo of the author and her husband
A photo of the author and her husband

Excerpted from "Wondering Who You Are: A Memoir"

On one of our first Saturdays in our new home, Richard eats cereal at the table and looks out the window, which overlooks giant evergreens.

“Do you like me?” he says. He pours himself another bowl of raisin bran.

“If you eat like you’re twenty, your body is going to sh...

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Sonya Lea

Sonya Lea’s essays and interviews have appeared in Salon, The Southern Review, Brevity, Guernica, Cold Mountain Review,The Prentice Hall College Reader, The Rumpus and The Butter. Lea teaches at Hugo House in Seattle, and she’s leading a pilot project to teach writing to women veterans through the Red Badge Project. Originally from Kentucky, she currently lives in Seattle, Washington. Find her at www.wonderingwhoyouare.com.

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