My sexual awakening at 70

I was a nice, Jewish girl taught to believe sex was dirty. Fifteen years after my husband died, all that changed

By Lynn Brown Rosenberg

Published April 14, 2014 12:00AM (EDT)

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I was sexually “conservative.” Back when I was single, I let myself go a few times, but my head was mostly filled with phrases like “a nice, Jewish girl doesn’t enjoy sex.”  That was about to change.

After my husband died, I went for 15 years without sex. (We were married for 15 years). And our sex hadn’t been great when we had it, thanks to, among other reasons, my repression and a medication I was taking. So, at age 70, I was practically a virgin.  I asked my doctor to change my medication to something else, and he did.  Now I wanted mad, passionate, down-and-dirty sex. But how?

Orgasms had never come easily to me, but I had never thought of mentioning it to a doctor or therapist to see whether there was something available to help me.  Finally, I did.  My urologist, a woman, suggested I get a vibra...

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Lynn Brown Rosenberg

Lynn Brown Rosenberg has written an unpublished memoir called "What's a Nice Jewish Girl ... doing on a website like this (and what led me here)," from which this is excerpted. She has written many screenplays, two of which are currently optioned for feature films, a thriller, and several short stories. She wrote a short film called "Solo," which was honored with a Golden Eagle.

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