Accuser dies by suicide one day after actor Kevin Spacey posts "kill them with kindness" video

Ari Behn, who was once married to a Norwegian princess, claimed that Spacey groped him at a concert in 2007

By Matthew Rozsa

Staff Writer

Published December 26, 2019 8:41PM (EST)

Kevin Spacey (AP/Evan Agostini)
Kevin Spacey (AP/Evan Agostini)

Disgraced actor Kevin Spacey, who has been accused of sexual misconduct by more than a dozen men, released a video in which he said he would kill his enemies “with kindness” only a day before one of his accusers, Ari Behn, died by suicide.

The video, which was posted Christmas Eve to Twitter, began with Spacey tending to a fireplace while wearing a holiday sweater. He appeared to be using the southern drawl, which distinguished one of his most famous characters: President Frank Underwood from "House of Cards."

“You didn’t really think I was going to miss the opportunity to wish you a Merry Christmas, did you? It’s been a pretty good year, and I’m grateful to have my health back," Spacey says in the footage. "And in light of that, I’ve made some changes in my life, and I’d like to invite you to join me. As we walk into 2020, I want to cast my vote for . . . more good in this world.”

He added, “Ah, yes. I know what you’re thinking, ‘Can he be serious?’ I’m dead serious. And it’s not that hard, trust me. The next time someone does something you don’t like, you can go on the attack. But you can also hold your fire and do the unexpected. You can kill them with kindness.”

After Spacey promised to “kill them with kindness,” the video played ominous music as the camera moved to a shot of him continuing to tend to his fireplace.

After Spacey posted his video, Ari Behn — a Norwegian author, as well as the ex-husband of Princess Martha Louise, who accused Spacey of groping him at an event in 2007 — died by suicide on Christmas Day, according to The Hollywood Reporter. The alleged groping incident occurred at a Nobel Peace Prize concert when, according to Behn, he and Spacey sat right beside him.

"After five minutes, he said: 'Hey, let's go out and have a cigarette?" Behn said of Spacey."Then he puts his hand under the table and grabs me by the balls."

Behn’s publicist has not released any further details surrounding his death. It marks the second time that an accuser of Spacey has died after making a public accusation against the award-winning actor. An anonymous massage parlor therapist who had accused Spacey also passed away in September. The unnamed individual claimed that Spacey forced him to grab his genitals twice during a massage at a private Malibu residence, which resulted in a lawsuit.

Spacey also released a Christmas Eve video last year, which more directly addressed the accusations against him and implied that his fans were “too smart” to believe them.

“Of course, some believed everything and have just been waiting with bated breath to hear me confess at all,” Spacey said. “They’re just dying to have me declare everything said is true, and I got what I deserved. Wouldn’t that be easy? If it was all so simple. Only you and I both know it’s never that simple. Not in politics. Not in life. But you wouldn’t believe the worst without evidence, would you? You wouldn’t rush to judgement without facts, would you? Did you? No, not you. You’re smarter than that.”

By Matthew Rozsa

Matthew Rozsa is a staff writer at Salon. He received a Master's Degree in History from Rutgers-Newark in 2012 and was awarded a science journalism fellowship from the Metcalf Institute in 2022.

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