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Melissa Febos

Melissa Febos is the author of the memoir, “Whip Smart.” Follow her on Twitter at @melissafebos.

Dominatrix in a Tea Party town: Confederate flags, pickup trucks — and now me

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In defense of the hickey

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My big, strong, manly hands

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Rebel girls

Melissa Febos

A dominatrix moves to the country

Melissa Febos