Myra MacPherson

Why they can't all just get along

In the unfolding telenovella over custody of Elian, the Gonzalezes look more disturbed than the Sopranos.

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Poor Juan Miguel Gonzalez must feel like Charlie Brown. Every time he thinks he will get to see and hold his son Elian (no last name necessary), the entire brood of Lucys — great-uncles Lazaro and Delfin, Marisleysis and the Cuban American National Foundation’s (CANF) lawyers — yank the football away. The extended Gonzalez family saga has come to seem like the world’s longest telenovella, except a soap opera writer would probably reject the family as too implausible.

First there is cousin Marisleysis, the so-called surrogate mother, who has said on TV that she thinks Elian would be tortured if he returned to Cuba. Does anyone have a moment’s doubt as to what she is telling this 6-year-old? And why he is saying he doesn’t want to go to Cuba? Or even to Washington? (Although we only have his great-uncle’s word for this.) And should we be surprised that a boy whose only traveling experience ended with his mother’s death and his near-drowning doesn’t want to travel?

Marsileysis slips in and out of emergency hospital rooms faster than an overworked doctor. I previously wrote that she had been hospitalized once before Elian came to these shores. I was wrong. The count is now up to three known times before Elian came to Miami, undermining the family’s argument that she has these nervous collapses out of fear that Elian will be taken away. Altogether there are now 11 known hospital visits, according to Meg Laughlin of the Miami Herald.

Questions arise. Why do these stress attacks always happen when it is convenient to slow down the process of handing over Elian? Who is paying for the bills for a young woman who has no insurance? (Could we suggest CANF?) Why doesn’t her mother ever visit her daughter during these hospital stays? Father Lazaro is ever-present, but her mother, Angela, remains a mystery, out of sight in the house.

Wednesday, instead of flying to Washington as was expected before the great-uncle nixed the deal around midnight Tuesday, Elian and Marisleysis were briefly ensconced in the home of Sister Jeanne, the nun who has told more mystifying tales than Pinocchio about her brief visit with the grandmothers from Cuba months ago. At first she said Elian should be returned to his father in Cuba; then she changed her mind after learning of unspecified disturbing reports. She told a reporter that the disturbing stories came from the Miami family; but then, after the reporter suggested the family might not be totally reliable, Sister Jeanne said she heard the stories from the grandmothers. Then she tried to take the interview off the record, though the reporter disagreed.

The family sought her out as a sympathetic haven Wednesday, but did they really believe that Juan Miguel would come to this place as if it were a neutral arena? Attorney General Janet Reno was brave enough to show up at Sister Jeanne’s to try to effect a peaceful handover of Elian, but expecting his father to show up seems too much to ask. Apparently, the Gonzalez family came to that conclusion, too, since they took Elian and Marisleysis back to their house in Little Havana not too long after the meeting.

And why does the Immigration and Naturalization Service and everyone else play this game of “Can This Family be Saved?” suggesting a “reunification” of people who barely knew one another before — and today are more hostile and divided than the Sopranos. The INS suggests a two-week Gonzalez family love fest after Elian is transferred to his father. But isn’t there something ludicrous and even offensive about Juan Miguel Gonzalez and his wife, their infant and Elian together with the Miami brood — the twin cousins with their criminal records, the two great-uncles, Lazaro and Delfin, with their DUI records, and fragile Marisleysis — in one house? Especially when the family has vehemently insulted Juan Gonzalez as well as Cuba?

While they’re at it, they might just as well find a bedroom for Fidel Castro and his fierce enemy, U.S. Rep. Lincoln Diaz-Balart. Fidel is Lincoln’s uncle — which makes him a closer relative to the hated dictator than Elian is to great-uncle Lazaro.

All in Elian's family

The media is holding back on the shady past of the young Cuban refugee's Miami relatives.

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All in Elian's family

As Elian’s odyssey is spun from one insane moment to another by the national media, a majority of angered Miamians, including moderate Cuban-Americans, wonder why pandering national politicians and the media duck the unsavory side of this saga.

Instead, they report reverentially the words of extremist self-appointed Cuban-American exile leaders, no matter how inflammatory and distorted. In the meantime, Elian’s Cuban-American relatives are depicted as loving caretakers for stridently disobeying American law and, in effect, kidnapping the child.

When a family lawyer, for example, vowed that Elian’s father and the United States government would “rip Elian from the loving arms of his cousin” most of the press did not question anything about the 22-year-old Marisleysis Gonzalez, nicknamed his “surrogate mother.” The vision of Gonzalez being taken out on a stretcher, oxygen mask to her face, has become a staple of TV news. Six times since Elian’s arrival four months ago, she has been hospitalized for a “nervous stomach” or “emotional anxiety,” and just as quickly released. Even last summer, when Elian was an unknown child in Cuba, she collapsed and was admitted to a hospital — which does not square with the reason her family has given for the episodes, her fear that Elian will be returned to Cuba.

One can certainly sympathize with any emotional problems she may have, and she is no doubt a loving relative, but one has to question what kind of emotional stability she can possibly provide for her 6-year-old charge. Friends have been quoted as saying that she leads the brainwashing brigade, never missing a chance to underscore what a bad life Elian would have in Cuba. And she apparently has scant sensitivity for the emotional well-being of a frightened little boy by letting him watch on TV the scary mess unfolding around him, including rabble-rousers who push through barricades, screaming their “pray for Elian,” mantra in front of the family’s tiny house in Little Havana.

“Every time he hears that they might pick him up,” Gonzalez recounts with a tear in her eye, “he looks at me with open eyes and asks, ‘Why are they doing this, when my mom is the one who brought me here?’”

Because family members are ever so accessible and always on camera — orchestrated by a public-relations man known in Miami for running dirty political campaigns — the media takes the easy way out and avoids digging. Only after the national press reported their assertions that Elian’s father was abusive, for example, did the family admit that they had no proof. The latest propaganda coup was the dramatic exhortation of the surrogate mother who spoke like a Barbara Walters pro when she demanded of a TV crew “I want to go live!” to attack the INS, just hours before she was hospitalized again. Marisleysis’ background is important to report because she is a heavy player in the fight; family lawyers stopped negotiations during her latest hospital episode.

To their credit, however, the Gonzalez family has turned down numerous monetary requests to get the “inside” story, but they have done little to protect him from the terrifying glare of publicity, including providing photo-ops of his bedroom.

In what passes for news these days on television, we can always count on Chris Matthews and his appetite for the inflammatory and selective. This time he interviewed the locals from a nice “neutral” place for his show “Hardball,” a cafe in Little Havana. And Diane Sawyer’s three-part series depicted the Miami relatives sympathetically, with little regard to their rough history. It has been so well buried, in fact, that many people in other parts of the country are astounded when they learn of it.

So what kind of Miami relatives surround Elian? Both of his two great uncles, including Lazaro who seeks custody of Elian, have two DUIs with inebriation levels that shot through the roof. (This fact has received only brief mention in the national press and appeared in only five stories out of scores on the Elian case in the Miami Herald. The Herald, more often a cheerleader than a fact finder when it comes to Cuban-Americans, was in the embarrassing position of having to attribute this story to the New York Times.)

The blood level of Elian’s 49-year-old great uncle, Lazaro, was at more than twice the legal limit when he was arrested for drunken driving in 1993, after police spotted him swerving between lanes. Officers noted that he “had extreme poor balance, red, glossy bloodshot eyes [and] slurred speech [and he] was in a total daze” when next arrested in 1997. (A previous conviction came in 1991, but court records for DUIs are no longer available dating back that far.)

His brother, Delfin, a frequent visitor to the house of Elian and a major player in the custody battle, was so drunk that he was arrested driving the wrong way in traffic on a main thoroughfare, resulting in one of his two convictions. Brenda Shapiro, who has served as a juvenile guardian in numerous family custody disputes, stressed that Lazaro’s drunken-driving convictions should give one pause in a custody battle. If she were the attorneys for Elian’s father, she said, “I would make it clear that I wouldn’t want my child riding with him.”

Twin cousins who used to visit Elian disappeared from the photo-ops after it was revealed by the Miami New Times that, at the age of 32, both men have multiple felony arrests. Cid, the son of Lazaro’s sister, faded from sight when it became known that he was awaiting trial for allegedly assaulting a tourist last fall. Cid was arrested hiding under a car next to two gold necklaces he had allegedly ripped from the neck of a tourist after hitting him over the head while an accomplice held his arms. Throughout the ’90s he was in trouble with the law. Cid was arrested on felony charges of carrying a concealed weapon and violently resisting arrest and later on felony firearms and prowling charges. In 1994, his ex-wife sought a permanent injunction against him alleging domestic violence and sued him for child support a year later. His brother, Jose, was arrested at least five times in four years on felony charges including burglary, grand theft and robbery and another time on charges of petty larceny.

The family’s spokesman, Gutierrez, kissed off the cousins’ extensive criminal records by saying “everybody has somebody in their family who was a troublemaker.” So much for the man who is seen hovering over Elian, coaching him to raise his fingers in a V for victory sign when the cameras roll.

The pandering pilgrimage of local and national politicians (many of whom have accepted contributions from the Cuban American National Foundation, the lead organization of the Elian battle) has increased weekly. Now, Vice President Al Gore has sunk to a dismal low by waffling on what should be an absolute. Most Democratic leaders in Florida feel there are not enough votes from the extreme exile community, who dominate the Elian fiasco but by no means control all of the 800,000 Cuban-Americans in Dade County, to make the risk of evoking animus in Gore’s hardcore base of white, non-Hispanics statewide worthwhile.

If he were from any other country, Elian would have been sent home to his only surviving parent on the fastest jet possible last November. Instead, Elian has been made the poster boy for religious fanatics who claim that he was a miracle brought to them from the waters — a young Moses or Jesus borne to them from an evil land. Reports of the family seeing the Virgin Mary in their mirrors — as well as the Virgin of Guadalupe — have spread like brush fire.

As for the rest of Miami whose views seldom get reported, including the many Cuban-Americans who abhor the tactics of far-right Cubans, the buzz echoes the majority of Americans: “The boy should go back to his father.” From cabdrivers, bus drivers and maids to doctors, lawyers and businessmen, they register disgust with the handling of this case. You hear it from struggling Honduran-American maids and you hear it from rich Cuban-American businessmen. Democrats are furious at Gore, as much for what they see as his political stupidity as for his pandering. Most Democratic leaders in Florida feel there are not enough votes or campaign contributions for even the most cynical Democratic hopeful to sacrifice principle.

This is a polyglot city and county made up of African-Americans, non-Hispanic whites, Haitians and people from all parts of Latin America. This is a state filled with anger at the way some elements of the Cuban-American community have flouted laws and disregarded the First Amendment from the moment they received the amazing perk of being able to pass citizenship tests in Spanish. They were certainly the major beneficiaries of U.S. Cold War policies.

The schism has never been deeper between right-wing Cuban-Americans and the rest of Miami (which includes moderate Cubans), and the repercussions may be lasting. A young Cuban-American businessman voiced a concern expressed by many that the image of Miami is now so bad that corporations won’t locate here.

The actions of a fanatic few are nothing new for Miamians. Take, for example, a benighted and financially ruinous local statute that prohibits Cuba from profiting from any transactions here.

Last fall, 3,000 Miamians, including many Cuban-Americans, attending a concert with Cuban musicians had to run a gantlet of protestors, who spit at them and hurled rocks, bottles and obscenities. The first site for the concert pulled out after a bomb was thrown at a restaurant run by the concert promoter. Bowing to that kind of pressure, the city lost a chance to host the Latin American Grammy Awards.

And just this February, the city threatened to cancel a large grant to the Miami Film Festival because it included a film made in Cuba, which was, ironically, critical of Castro. In the ’80s, a bomb was thrown through an art museum here because it included art by Cuban painters. In the ’70s, it was worse: People had their houses bombed and legs blown off by car bombs for suggesting even a dialogue with Castro.

Now, with the most hysterical protestors vowing death before allowing Elian to return to Cuba, it’s no wonder the boy’s father is wary of traveling to Miami to pick up his son.

As the world sees a defiant Miami-Dade County Mayor Alex Panelas saying he would not help out the feds if they came to take Elian away and other Florida politicians in supplication to the protestors, this is not an unreasonable concern. (Indeed, as this story was edited Friday afternoon, I stood by with other fuming passengers who missed their flights because the police blocked lanes into the Miami airport in expectation of a protest that was, in the end, called off.)

While the fate of Elian is the volcanic sensation of the moment, there is dij` vu for Miamians. Cuban-American politicians have soothed the protestors and allowed them to snarl traffic with their human barricades in the past as well.

And for the child at the center of this heartbreaking saga, there can be nothing but hope that it ends soon and with as little added turmoil as possible. The extent of damage to him may never be known.

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