Sally Eckhoff

The Vulnerable Observer

Sally Eckhoff reviews "The Vulnerable Observer Anthropology that Breaks Your Heart" by Ruth Behar.

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Whether anthropology is your thing or not, Ruth Behar has issues in mind that may be too provocative to pass up. Behar, a Cuban-born Jew who teaches at the University of Michigan, is a champion of a relatively new form of anthropology that seems to be driving the fuddy-duddies in academia nuts. Combine traditional fieldwork with a researcher’s personal experience, she asserts, and you come up with a mode of study that informs the intellect as it grips the emotions — without smashing the delicate subject(s) flat, the way conventional research often does. It takes an extremely clear-eyed and self-critical writer to get an enterprise like this off the ground, and Behar is one of the very few who can swing it.

“The Vulnerable Observer” is tough going at first, since its six essays are so arbitrarily arranged it seems as if the book was structured backwards. First Behar ponderously defends her case, then she submits her four examples of “vulnerable” anthropological writing, and finally, she gets around to explaining in plain English what critics’ objections to her methods have been. Getting into this book is like yanking a stubborn cork out of a bottle: Once the heavy work is done, the rewards are there for leisurely sampling.

In “Death and Memory,” which directly follows Behar’s ponderous intro, the wine is good indeed. This sprawling essay has Behar touching down in a Spanish village populated almost exclusively by old people. She gathers her elderly subjects’ perceptions of what death means even as she frets helplessly about her frail, lonely Cuban/Jewish grandfather back in Miami. Her own protective instincts aroused, Behar gets bold enough to make the prospect of death majestic and frightening. By the time she returns to Florida to sit shivah for her Zayde, you’ll probably be in tears.

Unfortunately, the rest of the book doesn’t have the same intellectual or emotional wallop. The next four essays, one of which describes an automobile accident that landed the author in a body cast at age 9, are badly unbalanced by the hip lit-crit buzzwords that permeate this book. Like many academicians, Behar can’t put fingers to keyboard without yakking about “texts,” making occasional (and, luckily, half-hearted) references to “Otherness,” or starting paragraphs with “This essay is about …” — all post-structuralist devices that stop the imaginative process dead in its tracks. And, yes, Behar proves that anthropology can make you cry, but changing her delicate science from a self/other exploration into a self/self trip sometimes strains logic. Sheer solipsism won’t cure cultural anxiety, but the constant negotiation between the impulse to objectify and the impulse to embrace might relieve some of the ache.

!YO!

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Here’s a newish angle on an old theme: a fictional biography of a person you’ll probably never want to meet. Yolanda Garcia (Yo for short) is charming, soulful, a bit of a screwball. Her folks and her sisters — plus assorted aunts and uncles back in the Dominican Republic where she was born — adore her. But the grownup American Yo is an irritant, a born loudmouth and fibber whose specialty is getting other people into trouble. In other words, she’s a writer, one of those people who, as Joan Didion said, is “always selling somebody short.”

You don’t have to share Yo’s literary ambitions to understand her witchy charm. Julia Alvarez, author of “How the Garcia Girls Lost Their Accents” and “In The Time of the Butterflies,” has a nearly irresistible way of portraying her poet-subject. Each chapter of this book is told from a different person’s point of view, as if they all sat down with a tape recorder after a couple of drinks and uncorked their hidden agitations. Yo’s mother, her frou-frou cousin Lucinda, the caretakers at Yo’s old family place in the D.R. and a number of interested men are invited to spill the beans. Even her crazy stalker, a man she doesn’t know, gets to have his say. They all believe she’s selfish, yet undoubtedly trusting and kind. When Yo’s (very personal) books get popular, though, these same people find themselves naked to the world, and they hate it. Still, they forgive her, because Yo has a knack for reconnecting people to the parts of themselves they’ve forgotten. She might even have the same effect on you.

Alvarez’s style is blunt, but so light and eager it’s absolutely captivating. Her eye for psychological detail can move the heart. And she’s funny, too. Just one snag: Is writing such a sacred calling that it justifies Yo’s casual destructiveness? At this book’s least convincing moments, Alvarez comes close to saying yes. It’s when she lets you consider her subject as a small, disobedient planet in the human galaxy that “Yo!” sheds the most light.

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Tales from Watership Down

Sally Eckhoff reviews "Tales from Watership Down" by Richard Adams.

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To those with an aversion to fairy stories, fake mythological lingo, and anything that anthropomorphizes animals, here’s a book to make you swallow your doubts. “Tales from Watership Down” is a marvel. It consists of 19 stories, ostensibly about rabbits but actually concerning aspects of life — some mystical, some practical — that are traditionally hard to pin down. Hard, that is, Adams seems to argue, unless you’re as sensitive as only a rabbit can be.

Adams is best known for two earlier books, “Watership Down” and “The Plague Dogs,” and for the films made from them. (He is also the author of “Traveler,” a moving and perceptive biography of Robert E. Lee’s legendary war horse.) None of these quite convey the striking and often scary atmosphere he brings to this new collection, a full 20 years after we last heard from him.

Aside from the rabbits’ vocabulary, which can be distracting, there’s nothing prissy or inconsequential here. Adams clearly understands a great deal about rabbits, surely among God’s poor because, as the old saw goes, He made so many of them. Rabbits are not only prey to what Adams calls “the thousand enemies,” but to the cruel whims of the seasons. But few people can conjure up weather like Adams can, and hardly anybody has ever made an overgrown field in England sound so gorgeous and full of promise.

Rabbits’ lives don’t really have a point to them, not in any way people understand. Adams concerns himself instead with aspects of destiny that have to do with mysticism and nature — stuff we think we understand but really don’t. The pure, unfamiliar feelings evoked in “The Story of the Three Cows” and in the gory “The Hole in the Sky” — just two of the stories here — persist for quite a while after you’ve finished reading them. How often do you get to step inside a wounded rabbit’s delirium, or taste “the blessing of the years,” a small animal’s dreams of youth? And a laugh-out-loud nonsense yarn by a rabbit named Speedwell, with its crocus boats and sky-blue horses, may be the best carrot of all.

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Fruitful

Sally Eckhoff reviews Anne Roiphe's book "Fruitful: On Motherhood and Feminism".

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Tracing Anne Roiphe’s career often feels like following somebody through a revolving door: the requirements of keeping the pace can be trying. Roiphe, the author of feminist classic “Up The Sandbox” and mother of Katie, is best known for the latter feat. Katie Roiphe wrote a somewhat inchoate and wildly controversial New York Times article (which grew into a book) on women’s roles and the campus date rape debate. Lately, in her column in The New York Observer, Mother Anne has emerged as a social critic whose diverse passions can make her seem like a true eccentric.

Whatever direction you approach Roiphe from, she’s definitely a free-thinking welter of contradictions, a never-say-die feminist who’s absolutely nuts about children. This book, her eleventh, is about what happens when her two causes mix. Drawing from personal experience, academic writing and a feminist canon that spans much of this century, “Fruitful” describes how the women’s movement continues to sell mothers out. “We’re shooting ourselves in the collective foot,” she writes, and even radical readers will be forced, at times, to agree.

Roiphe rounds up some of the headiest precepts of women’s lib and holds them up to her struggle to do right by her own impossible kids. It’s great being freed from the picture-perfect domestic roles of the ’50s, she argues, but women headed down the wrong road soon after that. Now we realize that refusing to accept the pleasures of mothering may be one of the great sins of our time. It is a self-denial that sometimes adds up to spiritual suicide. Children suffered. So did men.

Roiphe’s unconventional ideas about how to redress society’s wrongs can be off-putting. Furthermore, she chains clauses together like someone muttering to herself. But from this account, her childraising trials — particularly at the hands of her chaos-causing, lie-telling, intravenous drug-sampling eldest daughter — could push anyone over the edge. How could someone burdened by Roiphe’s expansive conscience and ballooning guilt be so consistently crazy for yet another baby? The plaintive gasps of her heart seem unbidden, until we learn that the difficult daughter has HIV. This mother’s still not right all the time, but she wins over her witnesses.

Oscar Wilde wrote: “Children begin by loving their parents. After a time they judge them. Rarely, if ever, do they forgive them.” As good a mother as Roiphe has tried to be, her daughters may never forgive her. But, God help me, I do.

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Bound Feet and Western Dress

Sally Eckhoff reviews Pang-Mei Natasha Chang's autobiography "Bound Feet and Western Dress".

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If you look at it logically, any family history has the power to fascinate, although most of them just as logically fall apart in the middle. How often do you find domestic nonfiction worth saving your heart for? Pang-Mei Natasha Chang started out with all the right ingredients for an intriguing story of human resilience and turned them into something much better than the sum of their parts. “Bound Feet and Western Dress” is a factually eye-opening account of one woman’s progress across much of the world and most of the twentieth century. Its emotional resonance travels even farther than that.

Now 31, Pang-Mei Natasha Chang (her first name is from an ancestral poem; her middle from her mother’s love of Tolstoy) was a Chinese studies major at Harvard when her great aunt’s name popped up in a textbook. That great aunt, Chang Yu-i — who had been, among other things, a bank president — was born into an illustrious Shanghai family in 1900 and died in 1988. Her fate took its first unusual turn when she was three. One of her brothers was so moved by her screams when her feet were being bound that he persuaded Yu-i’s mother to let the little girl go. “Sheng jing bing. Crazy, my amah said about Mama’s decision,” Chang Yu-i recalled during one of her hundreds of interviews with the author. Translation: Who would marry a girl like that?

That someone did was not a de facto blessing. Chang Yu-i got funneled into a very fast part of the stream of progress, and found that though she was too modern for most of China, she wasn’t modern enough for Hsu Chi-Mo, her soon-to-be-famous poet husband. Pregnant for the second time, she followed him all the way to Oxford, where he ditched her for one of a series of racier candidates. At 22, she made history as the first Chinese wife to have a Western-style divorce.

In the ensuing struggle simply to keep going, Yu-i had to learn, in her words, to stand on her own two feet. And that’s how Pang-Mei Chang found her: in an apartment in New York, oceans away from her past and ready, shyly at first, to talk. That this lady’s been afforded such a splendid forum for her life story might have pleased her. It’s certainly more than an ordinary pleasure for us.

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My Summer With George

Sally Eckhoff reviews Marilyn French's novel "My Summer With George".

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It may get the blame for cooling off a lot of relationships, but feminism itself can be a form of romance. Like many other sisterhood-is-powerful fictioneers from the days of “Fear of Flying,” Marilyn French sees your typical woman in love as a pot-bound houseplant. Break the shell of male domination, the story goes, and you’ll grow fabulous roots to go with your new, bold spirit.

“My Summer with George” is proof that if you cook that theory too long, it cracks. The protagonist is Hermione Beldame, a middle-aged romance writer who thought she’d seen it all before falling for a man who is Eeyore’s human double. George is mopey and potbellied, but he pesters Hermione, dates her and stands her up as if nothing else mattered. Naturally, she’s nuts about him. Her summer with George is actually a summer without him, because whenever she needs her guy, he’s out somewhere being typically male, i.e. No Damn Good.

French’s prose is so light-footed and pleasing that it’s tempting to overlook the imprint of fossilized indignation that shades this work. One old-guard feminist literary ethic has it that society is essentially deaf to the truth about how women make their way in this world. “I had a vague sense that women’s lives lay untouched, unseen, like tiny violets covered with snow. No one knew they were there, and no one cared, really,” Hermione muses, while the reader wonders whether French has been living under a washtub since her novel “The Women’s Room” came out. And with George so consistently boring and remote, the only mystery is how the author will pull it all together in the end.

Indeed, French knows a lot about the exquisite agonies of being jerked around, but the nuts and bolts of dependency seem to confuse her. To express female neediness, she has Hermione issue serial lunch invitations. “I met a man,” the heroine whispers to each eager confidant, who invariably slams his or her wine glass down on the table as if the second coming had just been announced. Such cinematic gullibility may be commonplace in French’s party circuit. There are probably a lot of fish in her world riding bicycles, too.

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