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Ashton Kutcher’s war with the Village Voice

After the newspaper took him to task for his anti-child slavery initiative, the actor took up arms over Twitter

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Ashton Kutcher's war with the Village VoiceAshton and Demi talk about child slavery.

Ashton Kutcher, the PopPresident (as decreed by PopChips), is in the midst of an angry Twitter feud with the Village Voice over a viral video the actor made earlier this year. In a campaign called “Real Men Don’t Buy Girls,” Ashton and his wife, Demi, have started putting out PSAs about child slavery featuring Ashton’s celebrity friends. “It’s between 100,000 and 300,000 child sex slaves in the United States today,” Ashton told Piers Morgan back in April. So what bone does the Voice have to pick with such a noble cause?

“There are not 100,000 to 300,000 children in America turning to prostitution every year. The statistic was hatched without regard to science. It is a bogeyman,” said the Voice article, written by Martin Cizmar and Ellis Conklin and Kristen Hinman. Apparently, this unverified fact has been circulating widely across the media, including Salon. Doing some research of their own, the Voice concluded that there have been only 8,263 arrests for child prostitution in the last decade here in America, a much smaller number than the one Ashton (and other outlets) quoted.

This correction might not have lit such a bug under Ashton’s ass (especially if the Voice was just using him as an example of how the media has their facts wrong), but before the article even mentioned the data, it opens with several jabs at Kutcher’s commercials:

The PSAs have made some observers scratch their heads and others guffaw. Ostensibly about an intense issue—childhood sex slavery—the videos reek of frat-boy humor.

“Is it just me or is there, like, no connection whatsoever between Sean Penn making a grilled cheese with an iron (manly!) and the horrific situation of someone paying for an enslaved 7-year-old to give them a blowjob?” wrote a blogger on TheStir.com.

A blogger for Big Hollywood suggested viewers “sit back and take in a full year’s supply of empty-headed, self-important Hollywood narcissism.”

Ouch. Ashton responded to the piece over Twitter today, where his fans number 7,049,599:

And on  and on  and on.

What do you think? Is Ashton overreacting? Or was it wrong for the Voice to attack a celebrity for spearheading a good cause? Or hey … maybe it’s both!

Drew Grant is a staff writer for Salon. Follow her on Twitter at @videodrew.

When a parent is the pimp

A disturbing news story reveals the reality of children exploited not by a shadowy bad guy but a close relative

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When a parent is the pimp(Credit: Larisa Lofitskaya)

I was startled today by news that a mother in Salt Lake City tried to sell her 13-year-old daughter’s virginity for $10,000. We’ve heard of virginity auctions a whole lot in recent years — but for a child? More disturbingly, it brought to mind other cases of parents trying to sell their kids for sex. Every once in a while, similar horrifying headlines pop up in my news feed — for example, “Parents ‘Pimped-Out’ Daughter to Avoid Payments on Minivan” and “Mother Pimps Daughter to Pay Phone Bill.” These stories are arresting and awful — but I had to wonder how common they are.

Coincidentally enough, Vanity Fair just published an in-depth report on domestic sex trafficking, in which it’s mentioned that “intra-familial recruiting of sex slaves is a common practice.” What’s more, today’s New York Times reports on the particular trafficking problems in Oakland,, Calif. and, in an aside, mentions that roughly half of prostituted children still live with at least one of their parents. (On a related note, a University of Pennsylvania study found that “youth living in low-income households used sex to contribute to the household economy or to support the drug habits of their parent(s) or other adults in the household.”) A trafficked child’s age is the biggest predictor of parent pimps: According to anti-trafficking nonprofit Children of the Night, “Generally speaking, if a child is 10 years of age or younger and involved in prostitution, the parents are usually involved in the sexual exploitation of the child.”

Reliable numbers are, of course, hard to come by, but one expert estimates that less than 10 percent of child prostitutes in the U.S. are pimped by their parents. To put that in some perspective, roughly 100,000 to 300,000 American children are prostituted each year. So, assuming the 10 percent estimate is anywhere near accurate, that’s a whole lot of parent pimps, despite their making up a definite minority of domestic child trafficking cases. (That should tell you something about the scale of the problem as a whole.) It happens often enough that the FBI has started posing as parents in undercover online stings, as ABC News reported a few years back. Arnold Bell of the FBI’s Internet sex-crimes unit explained, “When we go on posing as parents with kids for sale, we’re contacted very quickly by pedophiles” — in part because it’s apparently seen as a believable scenario, but also because many pedophiles feel that the parent’s consent somehow makes it OK. (Note: It is profoundly not OK.)

In a sense, it’s easier to understand child sexual abuse that happens strictly within the home and the family. We can attribute it to mental illness or a part of the long cycle of abuse — but exploiting your child’s body for cash? It helps to think of the documentary “Born Into Brothels: Calcutta’s Red Light Kids,” a devastating look at the lives of impoverished prostitutes’ children in East India. Many of these children were destined to enter the sex trade, either as prostitutes or pimps, and at a very young age. Similarly, most American kids trafficked by a parent come from an impoverished household where either prostitution or drug use was already taking place. It’s amazing what can seem normal when it’s all you’ve ever known.

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Tracy Clark-Flory is a staff writer at Salon. Follow @tracyclarkflory on Twitter.

The “Hooker Teacher” tells all

I lost my elementary school job for admitting my sex worker past. Now, even friends ask: What was I thinking?

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I have two master’s degrees, five years’ experience in the nonprofit sector and three years’ experience teaching — and I cannot get a job. Why? Just google me. I’m the “Hooker Teacher” — at least that’s what I’ve come to be called ever since Sept. 27, 2010, when I found myself on the cover of the New York Post.

“Meet Melissa Petro,” the story began,” the teacher who gives a new twist to sex ed.” The piece describes me as a “tattooed former hooker and stripper” who was “shockingly upfront about her past.” Indeed, earlier that month, I’d written an Op-Ed on the Huffington Post that criticized the recent censoring of the adult services section of Craigslist and came clean about my own sex-worker past. Because I was arguing that sex workers shouldn’t be ashamed to speak for themselves, I signed my name to it. The New York Post wasn’t interested in my politics, however; its interest seemed only in cooking up shock that an elementary school teacher would dare admit such a shady history.

The Internet shaming was fast, intense and seemingly unending, summed up in February by columnist Andrea Peyser, who wrote: “Hooker turned teacher Melissa Petro is a disgrace.”

Eight months after the story broke, I am jobless. I cannot get hired. And even my biggest supporters ask me privately: “But seriously, what were you thinking?” The answer is complicated. I was being idealistic. I was being provocative. I was naive. I picked a fight that I thought I could win — and I was wrong.

One reason I was so casual about the disclosure was that I had been writing about my past long before becoming a teacher. As a student at the New School, where I earned a degree in creative nonfiction, I began work on a memoir that details, in part, how I began stripping while living in Mexico as a student abroad. As an undergraduate at Antioch, I conducted ethnographic research across Europe and in the U.S., interviewing women from all aspects of the industry about their lives and their professions (published in the collection “Sex Work Matters: Power and Intimacy in the Sex Industry”). The subject of sex work and workers’ rights became a passion about which I’ve written in print and online, everywhere from academic and literary journals to political blogs.

Another reason I didn’t think my story would be shocking is because, well, my story isn’t shocking. Whereas some women’s road to sex work entails coercion and last-ditch survival, for me, this wasn’t the case. The product of a working-class home — the first in her family to go to college, let alone study abroad — my working as a stripper began as a means to an end. Prior to stripping, I’d worked in fast food. I’d worked in retail. I even spent one summer delivering singing telegrams. I was used to long hours, unreasonable bosses and very little pay; stripping — at least at first — was the ideal job.

But sex work, I would learn, was a far from perfect occupation. Prostitution, in particular, was not the job for me. I was simply not suited for a profession that relied on dishonesty. I got caught up in the industry’s pull toward materialism and greed. The industry’s criminalized and stigmatized nature only exacerbated the rigors of the work. I kept my job a secret, even from my family and friends. Living a lie, I lied to myself. My own denial and self-justification made it near impossible to extricate myself from the business. It was only by writing about my experiences that I was able to see my truth.

Around my 27th birthday, I gave up sex work for good. It was some months later when — unemployed and working on a book — teaching presented itself as an option. I was attracted to the flexibility and creativity of the profession. I liked the idea of working with children and of making a difference in my community, not to mention the summer vacation. After graduating from the New School, I landed a spot as a New York City Teaching Fellow, which bills itself as a highly competitive program that recruits “high quality, dedicated individuals from different backgrounds” to become teachers in New York City’s struggling public schools. My first year as a teacher, I earned my master’s in childhood education in the evenings while working full-time at an elementary school in the South Bronx. I taught art and creative writing to students in grades K-5, nearly 700 students each week. In the three years I spent there, I grew to love my job.

My past had no bearing on my competence as a teacher, and so I refused to operate as if it did. The idea that an elementary school teacher wasn’t entitled to a life in her off-hours I found equally absurd. Sure, I’d seen other teachers get in trouble for stupid things like pictures or comments posted on Facebook. Even so, I did not think it would happen to me. I was well appreciated at my school. When it came to my administration and my colleagues, my personal life was just that: personal. Many of them knew I was a writer, and those who had bothered to google me knew I wrote about my past. It had never been an issue — until the day it became front-page news.

There it was, my name and likeness — a most unflattering shot, by the way — under varying versions of the “hooker teacher” headline (which always made it sound like I was still involved in sex work, as though I were heading from the reading circle straight to working the streets): “Bronx art teacher blabs about exploits as stripper and hooker,” “Prostitute teacher a reason to end tenure.” I was called an “idiot prosti-teacher” in one N.Y. Post headline. One photo caption by the same publication read, “Attention whore.” More offensive than my past, it seemed, was the fact I’d had the gall to talk about it. The women’s blog, the Frisky, supposed it was “all part of Petro’s media-savvy plan to get publicity for her upcoming memoir,” which the writer called “disgusting.” The Daily News, Inside Edition and Us Weekly all sent their female reporters, women ironically similar to me — young professionals, well-dressed, writers themselves — to get in my face, demanding to know how I could refer to myself as a feminist.

As an advocate, I had long ago realized the media generally treats current and former sex workers in one of two ways: We are portrayed as victims, looked down upon and felt sorry for, too stupid to realize our own victimization; or else we are made out to be villains — dirty, cheap and willing to do anything to satisfy our greed. For years, I’d fought these gross stereotypes. Now I found myself on the receiving end of it.

To some, it was unfathomable to think that a woman could have once been a prostitute and, at another time, served her community competently as a teacher. Even New York’s Mayor Bloomberg made a statement personally requesting my permanent removal from the classroom. It was as though I were a monster needing to be stopped.

I’m not a monster, or a moron. I’m a human being, and — like everyone else — I’ve made mistakes. In the community where I grew up, girls didn’t become writers and teachers; they became strippers. I worked hard to earn my degrees. Of my sex work past, I have no regrets. Why, hadn’t I done exactly what critics of prostitution would have wanted? I had exited the sex industry to become a “productive” member of society. And yet no one seemed to accept that I might not be ashamed of my past. That I might, on the contrary, be proud of it.

I thought my perspective deserved to be heard. I thought that my speech was protected. I did not believe a government employee could lose her job for publishing an Op-Ed. Like I said, I was naive.

The night before the Post article came out I received a phone call from the superintendent of schools in my district informing me that I’d been put in reassignment. Instead of teaching I would report to the Department of Education administrative offices and sit awaiting instruction, where I sat for months until this past Friday, my last day. After months of investigation, I was formally charged. The charges — conduct unbecoming a professional –were a direct result of my published writing, the evidence cited against me consisting entirely of my quoted work. The fact that I was competent in my role as a teacher was never called into question. Even the Post could find no way of describing me other than “well liked.” But my job performance was never a consideration. The only fact that seemed to matter, apparently, was that I’d been a whore.

In the days and weeks following my reassignment, I learned a number of hard lessons about constitutional law. The constitutionality of a government employee’s speech is contingent on whether or not that speech creates a distraction in the workplace and, if it does, it is not protected so long as the distraction outweighs its political worth. This is the same reason that a soldier, according to people like John McCain, shouldn’t announce that he or she is gay. Doing so, the argument goes, would create a “mortal distraction.” In the case of the Hooker Teacher, in order to fire me the DOE needed only to prove that my writing created a disruption in my school community and that such a disruption had little societal value. Whether it was my speech or the speech of the New York Post that created the disruption was, of course, an argument to be made.

Meanwhile, the actual political import of my work was impossible to gauge, my own words buried in google searches underneath inflammatory news pieces, sensational headlines and cherry-picked excerpts from my creative work that, printed out of context, suggested I wrote at length about marijuana-fueled shenanigans and lesbian love affairs. Contrary to how I was being painted in the headlines, I was not a teacher blogging recklessly in her off-hours on WordPress about her sexual escapades. I was a writer and, as a writer, I was establishing a platform as a social commentator on an issue of cultural importance.

In the wake of Hooker Teacher headlines no one was debating the censoring of Craigslist, the legality of prostitution or even the constitutionality of my reassignment. The heated debate in the commentary section of the Daily News, for example, was whether I was hot enough to be paid for sex. The papers printed my personal Facebook statuses as if they were news. CBS published a slide show of my personal pictures, implicating my family and friends. The home where I lived was revealed on the nightly news so that anyone who wanted to could easily come find me. I was personally insulted and put at risk, then made to feel that by publishing a work of serious nonfiction, I had been “asking for it.”

Sure, I knew I was taking a risk. I stated that in the original HuffPo piece. But knowing there is a risk doesn’t mean you realize how great a risk it is, or what the consequences will be. And the consequences, in a word, have been devastating.

While I was paid by my employer through April, I had been relying on two after-school jobs to make ends meet. The day the Post story hit I was unceremoniously fired from both, including a position working in the childcare section of my gym. Other than an offer to be in a porn mag and another paid opportunity to be interviewed on “Inside Edition” — an agreement that felt a little like Red Riding Hood signing off to have dinner with the wolves — there were no silver linings in my dark cloud of publicity. Like the teenager I had once been, this past winter I would’ve done almost anything for cash. No one willing to hire the hooker teacher meant that I skipped meals. I walked instead of taking the train and didn’t launder my clothes as often as necessary. This, I understand, is the predicament of the unemployed and working poor and it reminded me a lot of how I grew up. I worked hard to escape those circumstances, and the fact that I was back there — with student loans to boot — felt unfair.

I suppose I could’ve just gone back to hooking. Instead, I made the arguably anti-feminist decision to give up my apartment and move in with my boyfriend. If this situation has taught me anything, it is that sometimes we must put ideals aside and think practically — much like I did at 19 years old, when I became a stripper. So, in the end, I resigned from my job, rather than pursuing a trial. I quit rather than be fired because, had I not signed their agreement, the DOE threatened to contest my unemployment. As much as I believed in the merits of my case, it was a risk I couldn’t take.

Now, I send out rafts of résumés, and I can’t find work. Whether that’s partly the economy, I can’t say, but these days it seems my most important former occupation is the one not on my résumé. Despite all I’ve lost, though, I refuse to let this defeat me. I know there would be something worse than living with the consequences of speaking my truth: living in silence. Let’s hope potential employers take note: I didn’t lose my job for being a hooker. I lost my job for being a writer.

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Melissa Petro writes for The Huffington Post, Daily Beast, Rumpus.net and XO Jane..

Berlusconi: I’m too old for too much sex

Embattled Italian PM says his age precludes him from the exploits suggested by investigators

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Berlusconi: I'm too old for too much sexItalian Premier Silvio Berlusconi touches his face during a press conference following a cabinet meeting on the justice reforms, in Rome, Thursday, March 10, 2011. Berlusconi has an adhesive bandage on his face after undergoing jaw surgery earlier this week. (AP Photo/Andrew Medichini)(Credit: AP)

Premier Silvio Berlusconi has told an opposition newspaper he is too old to have had all the sexual encounters he is accused of by Italian prosecutors.

The 74-year-old faces trial in Milan over charges that he paid for sex with a Moroccan minor and used his influence to try cover it up.

In court documents, the prosecutors have identified 33 women, including the Moroccan, involved in parties at Berlusconi’s villa.

The premier told La Repubblica — a leftist newspaper that has called for his resignation in the wake of the scandal — that “even though I am a little brat … 33 girls in two months seems like too much even for a 30 year old.”

He vows to participate in all hearings of his trial, which opens April 6.

Are brothels really to blame for Nevada’s woes?

Harry Reid says legal sex work is killing the state's economy, and he misses the real reason to criticize bordellos

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Are brothels really to blame for Nevada's woes?Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid of Nev., accompanied by Sen. Charles Schumer, D-N.Y., speaks during a news conference on Capitol Hill in Washington, Tuesday, Feb. 2, 2011, to respond to Republican critics on health care and the aviation bill. (AP Photo/J. Scott Applewhite)(Credit: AP)

You don’t have to be a supporter of legalized prostitution to have found some gaps in the reasoning behind Harry Reid’s call yesterday for Nevada to outlaw brothels. He warned state legislators, “If we want to attract business to Nevada that puts people back to work, the time has come for us to outlaw prostitution.” In other words: Banning the oldest profession is the key to boosting the state’s flagging economy. Is it really, though?

For proof, Reid cited a conversation with an unnamed business owner who expressed discomfort over the fact “that one of the biggest businesses in the county he was considering for his new home is legal prostitution.” A local brothel owner responded today by claiming that the business in question is planning to move to the state, regardless. Other than this mystery case, though, there is little evidence that Nevada’s bordellos — which are legal in certain far-flung rural counties — are keeping businesses out of the state.

In fact, many were quick to point out that if the state is suffering from an image problem, more likely culprits are the Las Vegas Convention and Visitors Authority’s racy, high-profile ad campaigns, the dominance of adult businesses on The Strip and the abundance of illegal prostitution. (Not to mention, Elvis weddings, anyone?) When reporters pressed Reid on this after his speech, he responded: “I’m glad that you’re interested and piqued by prostitution. But it seems that you guys should all get a new life.” Yikes.

Francis Carleton, an assistant professor of political science at the University of Nevada Las Vegas told me by e-mail:

[Reid's] trying to steer a middle course between Las Vegas (and Nevada generally, I suppose) as a place where anything goes, and a place that tries to imitate Orlando in terms of being family-friendly. We know that the ‘Orlandofication’ of Las Vegas didn’t work out so well — witness the rebranding of Treasure Island as TI, for example, or the toning down of the Luxor’s Egyptian theme. So perhaps this is an attempt to move in that direction without going quite so far. To rebrand Las Vegas (and Nevada generally) as a place to do serious business — an American and even international crossroads for business transactions.

One where businessmen broker their sexual transactions strictly underground — you know, like in the rest of America.

What Reid didn’t mention in his speech is that brothels contribute a decent penny to their counties in fees and taxes. Nye County’s bordellos paid $150,000 in taxes last year, according to KTNV. Dennis Hof, owner of the Moonlite Bunny Ranch, says his four brothels in Lyon County employ 650 people and pay roughly $500,000 in fees to the county each year. In 2009, brothel owners lobbied to have a $5 tax applied to prostitution, claiming it would raise $2 million a year for the state, but the Legislature shied away from the proposal, which was seen as legitimizing the trade.

It isn’t just the blame for Nevada’s image problem that is misplaced here, either: If Reid wanted to make a compelling argument against Nevada’s brothels, he would be better off citing the human rights abuses already documented in the state’s legal sex trade. That said, let’s not forget that an estimated 90 percent of the prostitution that goes on in the state is illegal.

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Tracy Clark-Flory is a staff writer at Salon. Follow @tracyclarkflory on Twitter.

Glenn Beck accuses Planned Parenthood of assisting in sex trafficking

The Fox News host spent an entire hour attacking the non-profit, says the organization abets in sex trafficking

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Glenn Beck accuses Planned Parenthood of assisting in sex trafficking

Planned Parenthood became the center of a budgetary coup in Washington yesterday, as House Republicans voted to cut all federal funding to the program. To top off an already tumultuous Friday, the organization found itself the subject of an hour-long Glenn Beck screed.

The Fox News host spent his entire show yesterday railing against the non-profit, saying that it assists in sex trafficking operations involving underage girls. He even brought on pro-life activist Lila Rose to try to corroborate his claims.

Here’s Beck’s introductory montage on Planned Parenthood, edited with the explicit purposes of scaring your socks off:

Next, Beck — for whatever reason — conjures tales of sex trafficking in Afghanistan and Egypt before bringing the narrative back home to the U.S.

Finally, Beck talks to Rose about her covert attempts to implicate Planned Parenthood in child sex trafficking.

Watch the latest video at video.foxnews.com

For what it’s worth, Media Matters has a point-by-point rebuttal to Beck’s argument. 

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